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User Topic: Old Cow New Cow Theory
crestfallen
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Default  Posted: 5:46 PM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OC....I almost lost my dentures when I read that you are 44! I'm sure you're gorgeous!

If you're an old cow, I'm an old sow! Just turned 57, but I firmly believe(maybe because I'm not as firm as I used to be), its just about the "newness" or "strange" as my dear best friend puts it.

When that wears off, what is there really to talk about to someone 15+ years younger than you? You didn't even watch the same cartoons growing up. You can't talk about past presidents and all of that political crap, you can't talk about computers and everything else that is included in the generational skip. And there is a generational skip. I can talk to my kid's friends till the cows come home, but does it really interest me? I don't know, they think differently, they have different expectations.

I agree it's not a gender thing,some people just get off on getting over. I truly don't think my H's affair had anything to do with me. I eat right, I exercise daily, I try and do it all right. My friends all kid me that my picture comes up in the dictionary when you google "perfect wife." It was all about my FWH, his feeling bad about how wonderful he was! And how he felt entitlement to a piece on the side.

Oh, thank goodness, cows can't talk!

[This message edited by crestfallen at 5:50 PM, September 25th (Wednesday)]


BS-me-57
WH-57
Married 32 years
OW-Mr. Ed ish! Seriously!
DDAY- 2/21/09
TT until 1/10/10
Working on R and doing well!!

Posts: 179 | Registered: Mar 2010
SBB
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Default  Posted: 6:03 PM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

]I don't subscribe to the 'male urges' one bit. Women, by design, can have 20 orgasms a day. Society has been trying to stamp out or harness this little quirk for hundreds of years.

What other species have sex for pleasure? Simians and dolphins. Neither gender is monogamous in those species so why is it assumed that women don't share those same urges?

Slut shaming probably has something to do with it. Its nurture, not nature.

Cheating is also not about sex. It is about self-esteem.

People don't cheat because they have urges or a need for someone new.

They cheat because they think it makes them new. Its their reflection in a new set of eyes they are after, not a new cow.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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PositiveAttitude
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Default  Posted: 6:16 PM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I knew about the Old Cow New Cow Theory. I read the book (Animal Husbandry) before it was a movie. I was so excited when I started watching the movie, and realized it was based on that book!

Remember though that Greg Kinnears character returns to the "Old Cow" girlfriend much to Judd's dismay and confusion since she thought he was leaving her for a "new" cow!


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OK now
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Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not sure women are much better with their search for newness and passion in relationships.

There has been a tremendous surge in female infidelity since the onset of computers and broadband. Might be that the issue is opportunity; certainly a lot of that around these days.


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mchercheur
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Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

God did not put a man & a herd of women in the Garden of Eden.


together 25 yrs, married 24 yrs, 4 children;Rebuilding
D Day: 5/10/2011 PA
OW: WH's co-worker,divorced, no children, 20 yrs younger than I-----& she knew he was married, had met our kids, but that did not stop her from trying to destroy our family

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