OC....I almost lost my dentures when I read that you are 44! I'm sure you're gorgeous!
If you're an old cow, I'm an old sow! Just turned 57, but I firmly believe(maybe because I'm not as firm as I used to be), its just about the "newness" or "strange" as my dear best friend puts it.
When that wears off, what is there really to talk about to someone 15+ years younger than you? You didn't even watch the same cartoons growing up. You can't talk about past presidents and all of that political crap, you can't talk about computers and everything else that is included in the generational skip. And there is a generational skip. I can talk to my kid's friends till the cows come home, but does it really interest me? I don't know, they think differently, they have different expectations.
I agree it's not a gender thing,some people just get off on getting over. I truly don't think my H's affair had anything to do with me. I eat right, I exercise daily, I try and do it all right. My friends all kid me that my picture comes up in the dictionary when you google "perfect wife." It was all about my FWH, his feeling bad about how wonderful he was! And how he felt entitlement to a piece on the side.
Oh, thank goodness, cows can't talk!