* I know that we don't give gifts...but what do we do if the WS offers us something, or gives us a present for a birthday etc?
* Does the no giving gifts thing also apply for Christmas?
* I know we don't initiate relationship discussions, but what do we do if they want to? And what if they are still in contact with the AP?
* I know that we're only supposed to talk about children and finances. But he still has lots of property here, is it ok to ask him to remove it?
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse'
OW1 - EA - my friend
COW - EA/PA - 'Fat Bottomed Girl'
Thanking God for showing me how to smile & dance in the rain
For me it they are still not NC then I would stay true to it.
Yes and him removing his belongings is fianacial, because if you have to look at it another day longer you are going to start selling it. Or if you throw it out, then he may have to buy replacements. When you do ask him to get it though be very concise in time frame, and what you expect him to take. Don't wishy wash it.
You have xy and z here. I want it gone by Nov1, if it's still here by that date, I will assume you no longer want it, and get rid of it. You are welcome to come by and get it on, and give him 3 days, and times that he can come.
I don't know your story, so I can't really offer more specifics than that.
or gives us a present for a birthday etc?
no giving gifts thing also apply for Christmas?
I know we don't initiate relationship discussions, but what do we do if they want to?
he still has lots of property here, is it ok to ask him to remove it?
Now, everyone can tweak the 180 for how it works for them. But, try to stay true to the core of the 180 which is to detach emotionally from the WS and to focus on what is good for oneself. Talking to the WS keeps you emotionally attached.
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson