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User Topic: There is hope, y'all
SBB
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Default  Posted: 7:23 AM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The beginning...

Love this. As they say the hardest part is starting.

I didn't believe it either when everyone said it. But it's true. I remember a few days after S someone said these words in response to one of my threads: "Sometime soon this won't be something that is happening, it will be something that has happened."

You can't see beyond today when you're in the midst of this shit happening. Once it has happened you start seeing much much further ahead.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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Default  Posted: 10:11 AM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SBB- I also got that quoted to me early on and it has gotten me through some of the more difficult times.


divorced the Dooosh
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even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

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Default  Posted: 10:27 AM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

True pass, at least in my situation.
I would have continued to tolerate crap treatment. I was absollutely not willing to tolerate serial cheating.
Divorce is horrible, yet allowed me to be free of daily crap treatment.

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Default  Posted: 4:58 PM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Divorce is horrible, yet allowed me to be free of daily crap treatment.

I second (and third, fourth...thousandth...) this: what I am going through in my divorce is just awful. Horrible. Distressing.

But it is NOTHING compared to the sheer nightmare of limbo and false reconciliation. THIS hell has a path. Those other worlds were an endless circle where one died a little death every minute.


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


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Pass
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Default  Posted: 10:02 PM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep. I've gotta tell you: Leaving her was hard. Standing up on my own two feet was harder.

But now I have some self esteem - more than at any other time in my life. I'm not going to pretend this has been easy on our kids, but it has to be an improvement in the long run. They had two broken parents, but now one of them is climbing out of that hole of depression (that would be me). They see me becoming the strong, independent man I want them to become.

A mantra I have taped on my computer monitor: Inaction is a decision.

And I'm done with deciding to sit still.

[This message edited by pass at 10:04 PM, September 28th (Saturday)]


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after married 17 years, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


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