h and I had this "talk" again last night, the I need...
I am specific, I want him to spend some time, even 1 hour a day doing something.
Read and post here, read a book, go to IC.
Learn how to help me. Learn to get past his fear of intimacy. Discover why he did this.
I have been clear so many times how important this is to me.
He stopped drinking, HUGE.
He controls his anger. HUGE
He goes to MC. HUGE
He just cannot express remorse to me, I can't see it. I tell him how much it helps me.
For a time I need an all out effort.
He very clearly showed me, "you mean nothing to me, I do not care", now he needs to disprove that. Just do the things I ask because now he does care.
An hour a day is too much to ask to help repair the the betrayl, abandonment?
that is what he is showing me.