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User Topic: Looking for Revenge
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Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you "mchercheur" for bringing that very apt article to our attention.
What an absolute loser this guy turned out to be. I hope the girl in question basked in her revenge. I would so love to do something like this, BUT when all is said and done, I gotta be a good role model for my two daughters (heaven forbid they ever encounter a loser like their dad). We are slowly putting the shattered pieces of our lives together.
This article did make me laugh - gotta admit, it is so comforting to read of others' plights and know that unfortunately we are not alone in our mire.
Thank you, once again for posting this article, it was so worthwhile

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Default  Posted: 1:51 PM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What you are experiencing is completely natural and expected. However, I caution you against doing anything rash when you are not in the right frame of mind.

You don't want to stoop to their level. You don't want them to think they've gotten to you/devastated you (especially you don't want the OW to think this) and it's not like they are going to learn an important lesson from some sort of revenge.

So be wise about anything you decide to do. I had a lot of big plans for getting revenge on my WH's AP...but in the end I abandoned the plans because I want to direct my energy to MY healing.

BS - mid-40's
SAWH - mid 40's
Kids - 2 elementary school aged
Getting tons of therapy and trying to "work it out"

Posts: 910 | Registered: Jun 2013
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Default  Posted: 10:49 AM, September 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am thinking that when my divorce is final, I will put BOTH of them on cheaterville! LOL

Lord, with Your help I will focus on each small step of the climb, instead of the mountain that stands before me.

Posts: 224 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 9:53 PM, September 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think the injustice of it all is one of my biggest areas of struggle.

I think if we weren't trying to make our marriage work I would be driving the karma bus.

Certainly I regularly think about putting her cell number and an advert for free BJs on the back of the men's loo doors at her local park and mall. In fact it is mostly the likelihood of me being caught heading into the male toilets that stops me.

I think revenge is a very normal emotion to feel.

BS: 47 (me)
WH: 51
Married 26 yrs, 3 kids (16-24)
D-Days 2012: 23 - 24 May + TT
D-Day 2013: 12 Apr OW#3
mOW #1 EA yrs PA Feb 2009-end 2011
mOW #2 EA months PA 4 months 2010
OW #3 PA single time 2010
Status: Maybe 'R'

Posts: 727 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: "down-under"
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Default  Posted: 11:33 PM, September 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I generally give stuff that is mean spirited a wide berth...but man I have been getting a perverse joy out of reading about revenges.

One particularly memorable one was a BW found out the OW was getting a tattoo. OW wanted narnia on her back. BW made a deal with artist. Artist got OW to sign a consent form to allow the artist to put whatever on her back 'artistic license' sort of thing. OW got a huge tattoo on her back alright - but of a pile of poo surrounded by flies. I totally cackled.

I'm sure I'll be able to let this go, but for now, it'll be my guilty chocolate, but less fattening. :)

Me: 39
WH: 42
DDay:Sep 19 2013 (only TT of EA)
Oct 4th 2013 revealed PA through snooping.
Marred 16 years, together for 20. Looking to R at this time. We have awesome kids (12/14).

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Default  Posted: 9:50 AM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

headdesk - that is hilarious, you made me smile.
Thank you for taking the time out to post.
Good luck to you on your journey, I hope today is a good day for you.

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Default  Posted: 10:10 AM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SurelyNOT - I think we all have had similar fantasies along the way. Just know that you are always welcome to come here and vent away. It is usually enough to burn off the steam, and if not a little time on a treadmill helps too.

Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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Default  Posted: 1:57 PM, October 2nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This post and all the comments make me feel so much better. I too fantasize about exacting revenge on the whore who inserted herself into our marriage. A billboard for sure, and my husband drove her around in his sports car (which I have dubbed the whoremobile) and have asked him to sell. I wanted to spray paint in red on the passenger side -'her name' is a WHORE. I also wanted to carve WHORE into the passenger seat. My daughter had me listen to Carrie Underwood's song "Before He Cheats" and it was so perfect I made it my ringtone specifically for when he calls. Only snafu was one day I was at school signing my youngest child out and he called. "Before He Cheats" played loud and proud and the ladies at the desk just smiled. I now silence my phone if I am going to be in meeting or school. I am not changing the ringtone though because it is too perfect. I am so happy to have this forum to post things we would like to do, but never would because revenge just lowers us to their level. But it does give us a creative outlet, so thank you.

The grass isn't greener on the other side, it is greener where you water it.

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