After DDay #1 I tried calling her. She said I had the wrong number and then told WS that she would have me arrested if I tried contacting her again. Then later told him she would talk to me "if she promised to stay calm" Fuck her.
After DDay #2, I think she knew she got the short end of the stick too. She reached out, apologizing, and telling me that she would answer any questions I had. I called her and stayed calm, because I wanted to know her side. I figured if I freaked out she wouldn't talk to me.
Even though I think a lot of it was embellished and lies, I did catch my WS in some lies too once I heard her side. They way they got back together was ALL on him according to her, whereas it was mutual according to him. SHE was the one telling the truth. She told me about a secret phone he had, a key to her house, when they would get together, what he told her about me, etc. All of it embellished and/or lies on his part too.
I confronted him with this info and he was shell shocked to the point he couldn't lie quick enough so he told the truth. NO WAY did he even fathom I would actually talk to OW because I didn't the first time around.
I still talk to her on and off for different reasons and even though we will never be friends, I appreciate the fact that she has kept the lines open with me so if I ever need to ask anything of her, I can.