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User Topic: Do they really always "affair down"?
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 9:56 PM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She was weak, broken, pathetic trash... and he still left me for her.

Please, please don't stress over this. One of the SI sages (I wish I could remember who) said, "They cling to their bad choices out of desperation." Many waywards have to stay with their AP because if they don't, it proves that they were wrong, and they just can't admit this.


I promise to surround myself with amazing souls and love them fiercely.

Posts: 19189 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
SurelyNOT
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Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had a post "Called looking for Revenge" on September 28th and I got a wonderful reply from MediumRare ... ...
"The fact is, morally bankrupt, weak spirited and loyalty deficient people (like your WS) bonding with low self-esteem, poaching, soulless shells of humans aren't capable of "happily ever after". The whole affair is unicorns farting rainbows with NO amount of reality involved and 100% delusional". This comment just made my day, I was having a tough one, and I will admit that I reread this a number of times, and each time it made me chuckle.
YES, it is a safe bet they affair DOWN. My WS has left us for her, and she knowingly conducted an illicit affair with him for 14+ months, and she has brought him into her 10 year old autistic son's life. What kind of a woman welcomes a cheater into her son's life, knowing he lied, withheld money from us, deceived us, and has left us shattered in a million little pieces. My WS says she doesn't argue with him, and he is looking forward to a "fresh start". Good luck with that fresh start considering your new relationship was borne outta deceit.
When you mess with another person's spouse it automatically makes you a low-life, no ifs, buts about it ... scum, lower than low, and you will get your just desserts.
Hold your head high gypsybird87, the road ahead is bumpy, but it gets better, onward and upwards

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gypsybird87
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Default  Posted: 10:28 PM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks everyone for the wonderful responses. Yesterday was just awful, today.. marginally better. It's still storming like crazy here in Oregon so while it's cozy to be home with my animals, it's also a bit isolating.

I'm trying so hard to focus on him, and this being HIS issue and really not having that much to do with OW. The only problem with the "broken attracts broken" philosophy is that it seriously makes me question my own soundness as a person. Because I attracted (and was attracted to) this horrible, pathetic, broken man... and I was not his first betrayal. I've learned that he's been unfaithful in EVERY relationship he's had, including the mother of his 5 kids. What a dirtbag. And I bought into his act hook, line and sinker... couldn't believe I'd fallen in love with such an amazing man.

What an idiot.
What a sucker.
And what a broken, fucked up mess *I* must be for him to pick ME out, as the best target, the weakest of the herd, as mentioned in the OP.

It really makes you question your own sanity and self-worth.

[This message edited by gypsybird87 at 10:29 PM, September 28th (Saturday)]


Me: BS, 45 Him: XWH, 45
Together 8 yrs, married for 5
DDay 04.10.13 Divorced 05.14.13
Two furbabies

Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. ~ JK Rowling


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