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User Topic: I donated asshole's winter clothes
dindy
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Default  Posted: 2:41 PM, October 2nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm replacing everything including bedding and towels that ex and I used together.

I also accidently cleaned the toilet with one of his t-shirts before he moved his stuff out-whoops!


Posts: 459 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: uk
dindy
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Default  Posted: 2:43 PM, October 2nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This post was to follow on from another thread? I don't know what happened there!

Posts: 459 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: uk
LadyQ
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Default  Posted: 5:04 PM, October 2nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

X left 2 years ago and the divorce was final March 2012. I still have all his shit in my storage building! Is that stuff considered abandoned? Is it now "mine" to do with as I wish? It's a huge storage building, like I could put a car in it huge. Sure would be nice to store MY stuff in it...

[This message edited by LadyQ at 5:04 PM, October 2nd (Wednesday)]


Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself...

Posts: 1650 | Registered: Jul 2011
Gajit
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Default  Posted: 5:12 PM, October 2nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LadyQ, I give you permission to get rid of his stuff LOL

You can throw it into my bonfire, or you can donate it to get a nice tax deduction.


Lord, with Your help I will focus on each small step of the climb, instead of the mountain that stands before me.

Posts: 224 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: USA
AussieMum
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Default  Posted: 7:58 AM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

STBX left in January - his crap is still here in the garage. SO MUCH STUFF (he was and is a hoarder).

I've started selling what I can. Thought about taking it all to the dump but why shouldn't I make some money out of his stuff? When (if) he asks for it, I'll say 'oh really? Didn't know you had one of those! Never seen it!'


Me 46
ExH 51
EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately.
Married 10 years, together 14yrs
2 kids (DS11 & DD7)
Separated Jan 13. Divorced Jun 14

Posts: 180 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
Lola2kids
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Default  Posted: 8:11 AM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ex moved out 2 years ago.
I packed up all his stuff and the stuff he didn't take went into the garage.
Just in the last 2 months I got him to take boxes when he came to take the girls for visitation.
I am now down to 2 boxes left.
The only other thing is a big ass drill press that is bolted to my garage cement floor. I tried to take it apart (it's 3 pieces) and the top part is freaking heavy.
I wanted to sell it.
It's the last thing I have to get rid of and the house will truly be mine.


BS: (Me) 47
Kids: twins DD(10)
WS: Him 49 (Together 12 years)
D-Day April 18, 2011, Him:out Sept. 11, 2011..moved June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"

Posts: 1358 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Ontario, Canada
Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 10:21 AM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was stupid and did not listen to my lawyer during the divorce and granted FT storage use of half the garage.

He tried to clog up the garage so bad with all his crap. So, years after the divorce my dad and I moved a gigantic tool box 5x3x3 kind full of tools and tons of other stuff into an office in the back of the garage. Suddenly I had the garage back.

FT then brought more stuff. Instead of respectfully putting it in the office he covered up the garage making it unusable again.

I did not say a word and moved it all into the office.

One day I see him driving toward my home. So I discreetly go home and find him standing in the garage with this funny look on his face....

He accused me of stealing his stuff. I reminded him I am not responsible for anything in here. No judge would hold me responsible. And I walked away.

Since then no more junk has shown up. Moral of the story:

LISTEN TO YOUR LAWYER

[This message edited by Chrysalis123 at 10:23 AM, October 3rd (Thursday)]


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

Posts: 2625 | Registered: Jan 2010
chikastuff
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Default  Posted: 11:01 AM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"ex moved out 2 years ago.
I packed up all his stuff and the stuff he didn't take went into the garage.
Just in the last 2 months I got him to take boxes when he came to take the girls for visitation.
I am now down to 2 boxes left.
The only other thing is a big ass drill press that is bolted to my garage cement floor. I tried to take it apart (it's 3 pieces) and the top part is freaking heavy.
I wanted to sell it.
It's the last thing I have to get rid of and the house will truly be mine."

Lola, take a picture of it and post it for sale on CL. Note that whomever buys it has to pick it up.


Me- 32
Happily engaged and moving on

Posts: 382 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: New England
Saadnblu
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Default  Posted: 10:04 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is a late reply. I took so much stuff to the transfer station the first few weeks, it was hard to drive the car there. Mementos we bought together, CDs, DVDs, books, plates, sheets, towels, etc. I've put shoes, clothing, wedding presents from his friends and family in his studio. Meanwhile the chickens got in there and pooped all over the floor. I'm looking forward to clearing more stuff out of the house this weekend and eventually him getting it all and me turning the studio into a beautiful guest space for people who love my son and me. But not before it's exorcised... I love that you told him to get to the second hand store soon before it all was gone.


Me: 58, SAHM
Him: 58, LTA 2.5 years
Married 9 years, together 15
Dday: June 11 2013
DD 9 years
Separated

Posts: 57 | Registered: Aug 2013
FieldsOfLavender
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Default  Posted: 10:49 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love that you told him to get to the second hand store soon before it all was gone.

By the time I told him, it was probably already too late. :)


Posts: 190 | Registered: May 2013 | From: East Coast, USA
Saadnblu
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Default  Posted: 8:37 AM, October 12th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Even better. Hang in there. He sounds like he likes to warp reality in his favor, and against you.


Me: 58, SAHM
Him: 58, LTA 2.5 years
Married 9 years, together 15
Dday: June 11 2013
DD 9 years
Separated

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