So my dd started HS this year. Wow, a lot has changed since I graduated. Ha!
I'd like to think that I am not naive and I am a bit worldly, but what I have been told is happening in the HS is just crazy.
Friends with benefits seems to be a 'new' thing. I know this is not a new concept, but it was certainly not one I/we had in our high school years. And maybe this is coming out of their curiosity about sexuality, but there just seems to be shift in the youth's thinking when it comes to sex, sexuality and morals.
I am hearing stories of group sex, casual partners, girls kissing girls etc...
And believe me, I am no prude. If you are kissing a girl because you like girls, well then fine, but if you are kissing girls to get a rise out of boys, well then...no..ick.
Where has morality gone? Am I living in my own bubble and need to move or is this prevalent everywhere?
Is this the by product of the famous "girls gone wild" years?
And how the hell do you help your child navigate all this stuff?
I have talked to my daughter about her kisses/hugs/sex being special and that she should give them away to people who mean something to her. That if she just gives them to anyone, they have no value and soon others think she has no value either.
We've talked about sex and sexuality, drugs and alcohol. I have been very open and frank with her.
I am afraid she is buying into this thinking which would just floor me, really!
And I have come to find out that her peer group is being labeled a bit 'crazy' which mean they probably are. And then that means she probably is too. These are girls she has played soccer with for the past 10 years. All from good families. I have seen the instagram pics some of them post. Their parents would flip. I monitor her social media and this is how I know. And we have talked about some of the posts or pictures which show up.
Am I just a prude? And if this is her peer group, how do you influence that at all when she literally feels like she has grown up with these girls.
Ack! I am not ready for this! Or am I being a helicopter mom and I just really need to back off. Is this the way the world works now?
Thoughts?Me BS 42
Him WS 44
DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...
When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl