Oh pleeeeze, submitting a resume and recommendations isn't "applying" for a job? Bullshit.
Look, my FWH is sitting right next to me. He's been laid off and he's looking for a job. He has several headhunters also looking for him. So I asked him, honey, when do you consider that you have applied for a job.
He gave me a very quizzical look and said, when I send a resume in for consideration. I asked, not when you read about the job, not when you talk to the headhunter, but when you take the step of sending in the resume.
Well, he said, sometimes the headhunter sends in the resume for me, but once the resume has been sent to the company, that indicates that you are interested in the job and wish to apply. Quite often the company will review and then send you forms to fill out on-line but sending in the resume is the very first step in applying for a job.
I asked, is this industry standard for software/computer positions or is that considered to be the norm. He REALLY gave me a strange look and reminded me that I hire people upon occasion and asked what I considered to be an application. Point taken when the applicant sends in a resume.
So, evidently your WH is clueless about the steps for applying for a job, or he, more likely, wanted to hide the fact that he was in contact with his old boss which he was not supposed to be. You have every right to be steamed. He was snowballing you.