He's trying to fall back into old ways and things I used to not mind doing I hate.
Then don't allow yourself to be pulled back into the old ways.
You dont want to rock the boat and potientailly send him off into another affair.
The problem is that by not standing up for yourself, you are allowing him to get away with things that he shouldn't be.
He's a grown man, he should have helped clean up after the kids.
He should have asked you about what you would like to eat, warmed up chinese is just as good IMO.
Don't put your wants and needs aside because you are scared he will run away - because if you are really in R then he shouldn't be thinking that anyway.