Topic: Who's done a polygraph?
Member # 39670
| Posted: 4:20 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013|
And how did it turn out for you?
Me, BW forty something, DD & DS,
Married to WH (48) 10 years, together 15
D-Day #2 9.6.13 Broken NC/TT
D-Day #3 10.23.13 "Full Disclosure"
WH having PA with MW coworker 3.13-6.13
Posts: 620 | Registered: Jun 2013
Member # 40169
| Posted: 5:02 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013|
How do you even go about getting one done aren't they expensive
Posts: 166 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Illinois
Member # 37190
| Posted: 5:12 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013|
I had WH take one. He passed (it said no lies), he was lying (his admission later on, not just me thinking he was).
If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck - it's not a fluffy pink unicorn squirting liquid rainbows, complete with pots of gold out of it's ass.
Posts: 719 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Nowhere pretty
Member # 37154
| Posted: 5:35 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013|
My H took one and passed. I do believe him. We had a guy who worked for the FBI and local law enforcement, set up by my PI who was an ex-cop. The guy was professional but cold and did all sorts of things in the beginning to set up the polygraph. I'm sure they can vary.
It was $450.
And it helped us move forward. I have had independent verification that my H was telling the truth as well.
Worked for us.
Posts: 1572 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
Member # 39652
| Posted: 5:38 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013|
My XWH took one. After so much TT, and me contacting the OW only to be told by her that there was an additional OW, I wouldn't allow him back in the house without one scheduled.
We found one in the phone book. He was an ex cop, used to do them for his department. The cost was steep. I think somewhere around $350. But when he saw we were parents of three and I was pregnant, he cut us a break.
He helped us form I think it was seven questions that could be answered with a yes or no. I gave my XWH one last chance to say anything else, and the cop also stressed that the test would detect his lies. He fessed up to one last minor thing, took the test, and passed it.
I left feeling such relief. I knew there was a chance he was still lying and the test was false...but I decided it was the closest I could get to the truth. I needed that peace, and it's what finally helped me move forward.
The marriage didn't last. We D. But I will never regret the money spent.
Me: BGF (46), on the fence
Him: WBF (much younger than me), not sure he's the man he thinks he is.
I loved you for who I thought you were. Since he doesn't exist, who the hell am I'm sleeping with?
Posts: 333 | Registered: Jun 2013
Member # 10347
| Posted: 5:51 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013|
My brother took one and it said he was lying. It was later proven that he was telling the truth.
The very best stats I have heard are 93% accuracy. I think 7% is too much to risk, especially with the high cost. Also, I fully believe that the percent of accuracy is only as high as it is because people "believe" the test will know if they are lying, so they are therefore more likely to tell the truth, or have what is called parking lot confessions before going for the actual tests. Many say that helps them, but it is not something I would do or recommend.
Posts: 5531 | Registered: Apr 2006
Member # 16024
| Posted: 9:24 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013|
I took one and it did a lot for my BH in his healing and helped him move forward. Not a cure all, but a piece of the puzzle for sure.
It showed no lies and I didn't lie. For us it was helpful.
H googled polygraph examiners in the area, interviewed a few on the phone, looked at their credentials, emailed back and forth, and made his choice. I think it was somewhere around $400.
Take up your space (and do it well).
"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."
Posts: 33834 | Registered: Sep 2007
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