I read your back story trying to figure out why you have to pay him/them. If you are not legally bound, dont do it. He is not financially reaponsible, that is his issue. Not yours. You have two girls to support. She wanted him, let her support him.
[This message edited by sullymeishadomi at 6:05 PM, October 1st (Tuesday)]
Don't put up with this nonsense.
If you don't have a court order, you are not obligated to pay. What is it that you are "paying" for, anyway? Is there a court order?
[This message edited by Catwoman at 6:05 PM, October 1st (Tuesday)]
He works away for long spells, currently out West but is returning on Friday next week (Canadian Thanksgiving Weekend) and OW has made appointment at the bank to set up a joint account, and has booked an appointment with the "top immigration lawyer in town" for him. He is also dropping by to move out his stuff, not to see us mind, or check on his children. We have made arrangements to get outta Dodge for the weekend, so there's no fear we will run into them. Cause she is picking him up from the airport, will she be in our home helping him to move his belongings? The very thought makes me ill. I so despise the mess he has created for us, and the fact that she is such a willing accomplice in his abandonment of his family. Filled with anger and resentment, YES I admit it, and once again I ask, why, having done what he has done to us, why is it he gets the happy ever after, and we are left in a million shattered pieces. God but this hurts
See an attorney. Now. Anything you give to him is voluntary and could come back to haunt you. You need legal advice like yesterday.
You can send HIM a money order.
She stays out of it.
"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies!
OMG, I had no idea you were in that situation.
Please don't give him another cent.
Sending you strength
this happened to a other posted and he took the tv and the dog!!
Put his crap on the street and put some new locks on the doors.
And no money for him... or just leave him a money order.
Please oh please don't let him in your home.
Think of it this way..
if the the tables were turned would he show you the same courtesy???
Hell he can't even be bothered to see his kids!!
Sheesh! What an asshat!
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