If I actually wanted to talk to him, I could get around his blocking, but basically I don't want to feed into what I regard is stupid hurtful behavior.
this is fantastic :)
what gets to me is the extended "silent treatment" afterwards, then the attempt to convince me I have victimized him.
You know, I was thinking about this and when I signed up to SI. Everyone told me to leave my WH. I had an arsehole who made me do his university assignments so we didn't get into further debt. He was violent. Never spoke to me about his feelings. Spat on me, chocked me etc etc. Refused to work
And ofcourse the cheating
Your sign up date was March 2012, I am not sure if this was your dday but we'll take it that it is
My Violent dday was September 23 2012, (although there was all the other signs of DV that year) Cheating dday was October 4,8
Since May of this year
-> no more physical DV
-> no silent treatment
-> now has two jobs whilst studying his masters (and now I don't work because he wanted me to 'recover')
-> although I still help him greatly with his writtens he does 70% of the work instead of 0%
-> no porn
-> no cheating
-> no more 'poor me'
-> whilst he is working on his bad thoughts of imagening girls naked they do happen on average twice a day
-> we did have a verbal dv about a week ago but all factors considering I've moved on (because he was very sorry)
In the however section I can live with those two things, it took me a really long time to accept that the naked girls and an occasional verbal crap will happen. But the only thing that has gotten me through that is he wants to change he does the effort and above all he talks to me about it so we can work through it together.
I think maybe you should do a list in your head or on paper and really take stock of what is going on. I could not of accepted any of these if he didn't recognise he had to change for the betterment of our relationship.
You deserve much more. I could understand truly if this was June 2012 but it's not. I think you're right to 180 him because you can't will someone to change or have empathy for your feelings.