He sent FWW an email asking for info about DS. Previously DS said he didn't really want anything to do with LD which to me that meant NC. We talked that part out and DS was ok to give LD info. I asked my FWW what she sent and she said just info on DS. I pressed her a little bit and asked her what else she said. She finally admitted that she ended the email with the question "How are you doing?" I was upset to hear this, but I also specifically asked her if she asked about his job, he has been paying child support regularly for the past few months and that is new. She said no. I saw the email, I know that she did ask and lied. She sent this email about a month ago.
I know they had a child together but he's out of the picture. I respect DS wishes to allow LD to know whats going on in his life. What is FWW hoping to get out of asking how he's doing, how's his new job. WTF does it matter to her? She said he just answered by saying he's fine. I only half believe her. This is really bothering me. I know there is absolutely no chance for another A but WTF?
[This message edited by strongerdaybyday at 9:05 AM, October 2nd (Wednesday)]
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I have a DS from my first marriage..he is a LD too..if he started sniffing around,wanting a relationship with my child,I would ask him questions too. Not because I was interested IN him, but more to find out where his head is in regard to the child. Is his sudden interest in being a dad based on a new girlfriend he is trying to impress? Or is he truly interested in being a dad. I would want to know his intentions. I'd want to know if he was a safe person for my child to have in their life. If she opens that door a crack,and give him a little bit of info on DS, what are the consequences for DS?
So..I can't fault her for asking questions. However, there's no reason to lie. If she was asking because she wanted to know his intentions,then I would think she would be honest with you about that. Because it's a perfectly reasonable thing to do. but..to lie about it? Yeah...that shines a whole new light on what should be reasonable questions.
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
I have a similar situation with my DD. I really don't like her mom. I see her now and then when I have to. DD is in college, but I haven't asked her how she's doing in a decade but I just don't care. I wouldn't even get close to the how's your job going question.