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User Topic: Baby step forward.....!
foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 9:09 AM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well finally!

I'm sat here in my house awaiting a surveyor (realtor?).

It's taken months and serving court notice on XWW but finally it looks like we are moving forward.

4 weeks ago she asked for 25k cash and 2 cars to which I politely told my solicitor to tell her to go f@@k herself...!

Bearing in mind it's expected that all 3 of my properties are in negative equity or near abouts. I know this as I've already had the 3 of them valued twice!

Anyway, we are now PAYING 900 for a surveyor to value each of them, after which the skanky bitch will hopefully finally accept a sensible amount of money from me. Like nothing....!! 00,000!

She's left me with a lot of debt, has already got a car I paid for and have been clearing the loan for the past year or so!

Fingers crossed for a positive low valuation on them all and from there hopefully a speedy resolution!

I'm sure she will do her best to stick a few more knives in my side though along the way!

Why??? If it were me and I'd done what she did I'd be making the whole process as easy as possible for her...!


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

Posts: 605 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: United Kingdom
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:36 AM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why??? If it were me and I'd done what she did I'd be making the whole process as easy as possible for her...
Because you are YOU. And forever? She is not. Don't even try to look through her foggy vision. Crazy making.

Sending you valuation mojo!


You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


Posts: 22672 | Registered: Aug 2011
foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 5:56 PM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks NIK and I know your right.

I keep trying to understand her... Shouldn't bother though, she's do messed up as a person!

Valuations all done. Just got to wait for them to work out accurate assessments on prices and write up the reports. I should find out by next Friday hopefully! Going to be a long 8 days wait!


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

Posts: 605 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: United Kingdom
persevere
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Default  Posted: 10:26 PM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Progress occurs baby step by step


Me: BW-43
Him: XWH-43
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4160 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 4:55 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So I've been hanging on and hanging on for the reports and valuations to come back through to my solicitor.

Property 1. 6k positive equity
Property 2. 25k negative equity
Marital home. 56k negative equity

SO relieved its unreal!!!!

Yes that sounds daft being that there is so much negative equity between them but it highlights the fact that ExShitface is likely getting little to nothing off me!

Not bothered about the equity in 1. & 2. As they are both long term investment properties I had before I met Ex and since splitting with her are now ear in me a nice little monthly income.

The marital home I recon I can turn around into break even if not a reasonable positive equity with some hard graft..... I've got almost everything to finish inside, it's just all the externals that will cost the money, landscaping, conservatory/extension etc and now another 1/2+ an acre to add to the plot possibly more with a little more negotiation!

I bet she is so pissed right now as she thought I have been hiding money and the true property values since we split.

That's 3 valuations on each property now so even if it progresses to court I doubt I'll have to get any more.

And to think she's paid 450 for the pleasure of being told she's getting jack crap!

I'll be so happy if I manage to get away with giving her absolutely nothing...... It's what she deserves!


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

Posts: 605 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: United Kingdom
devistatedmom
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Default  Posted: 6:11 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You know, it can go a step further...she owes half that negative equity if you sell the marital home..


BS(me) 46, kids DS 17, DD 14.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


Posts: 5225 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 6:56 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, snap... ^^^^


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
Celebrating 60 years on Earth

Posts: 16634 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay for encouraging negative valuations!


You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


Posts: 22672 | Registered: Aug 2011
foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 4:46 AM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh how I would love to put that to her solicitor in a well worded letter and then be a fly on the wall when she reads it :)

I can feel I'm getting close to the end now. Can't believe it's not far off 2 years since DDay now and to think how mad I thought I was going, juggling immense daily commutes to see XWW and daughter every day only to be treading on eggshells unbeknown to me she had already been sleeping with this guy for a month by now.....

It's also nice to know DD has been with her new forever family for over a year and a half and heading to her second Christmas with them. Hope she's having fun out there wherever she is x


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

Posts: 605 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: United Kingdom
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:15 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You have come so very far in those two years. A lot of loss, a lot of change, and I dare say a lot of growth.

It's also nice to know DD has been with her new forever family for over a year and a half and heading to her second Christmas with them. Hope she's having fun out there wherever she is x
Your love for DD just shines through here, forever. Sending you peace and comfort. (((((hugs)))))


You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


Posts: 22672 | Registered: Aug 2011
foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks NIK

I'm only here still breathing because of you and all the other girls and guys on here who have kept me going during the hardest times, that and my parents who have been massive to me, although I've probably been more open about a lot on here because of the anonymity, security and understanding that's felt whilst here.

Thanks x


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

Posts: 605 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: United Kingdom
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