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Default  Posted: 2:52 PM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW bought my H a belt. Yep, it went to GoodWill. She also gave him a pen with his name engraved on it, after I wrote "whore" all over his work papers (which I knew she'd see the next day) I threw that in the trash can.

This thread reminds me of something else I did - just to be mean - I took his toothbrush one day and swished it around the toilet and put it back.

Me: BS
H had LTA with co-worker
Both mid-50s
Two sons - grown and on their own
DD - April 2010
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Default  Posted: 4:24 PM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My H's OW has to shop in the kids section she is so small. I do appreciate every inch of my height, and am glad my skirts don't drag the ground. (No offense to short people with actual scruples.)
And I need a bra. . . and I have great (straight-ish) hair. . . that she has to pay to get if she wants it.

I have to say in all honesty, although I am far from perfect, I never felt like my H was in it for the looks, that's for sure.

me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
In MC & Reconciling
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Default  Posted: 5:46 PM, October 4th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

i ripped every sunflower out of by one...very cathartic!! (and threw away seeds) OW had FB pic of herself wearing sunflower at same time of the affair. also threw away cowboy hat that mysteriously appeared at same time, she is all about cowboy/rodeo culture.

me: BGF
been together 8 years, have 2 kids

DDAY #1: Aug 2012
DDAY #2 Aug 2013

whiskey fueled nites with same woman
reconciling (again!)

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Default  Posted: 5:56 PM, October 4th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ha ha........9 years ago post a, we were in MC. I was asking my h some questions about what he remembered about his whore. He said that he remembered her always wearing a black thong. is the funny part - It wasn't so much that ow wore black thongs, but that she was 4'11" weighing in at about 148 lbs. (she made the mistake one day of stepping on our scale in front of me)

So one evening I took any thong I had that was black or had black in it and cut then up with scissors into small pieces. The problem was not so much that the cheating bitch wore black thongs, but how my h chose to ignore her weight since all he used to talk about were lean slim women. That in itself made me want to vomit.

[This message edited by TICKED OFF at 5:59 PM, October 4th (Friday)]

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Default  Posted: 6:11 PM, October 4th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I didn't have to get rid of any clothing, but I did get rid of a bed, couch, bedding and towels.

OW was always in yoga clothing ...I refuse to give up my comfies because she didn't feel loved enough.

[This message edited by Zayda1 at 6:12 PM, October 4th (Friday)]

Married 9 years, together for 11 years
2 children (7 years & 4 years)
Discovery of PA 04/15/12 (It only lasted a "couple of weeks" but it still shattered my world.)

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Default  Posted: 3:49 AM, October 5th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I threw out the bathmat because it 'featured' in one of his photos to her. Brand spanking new bathmat went right in the trash. Loony? Maybe. Nessecary? Hell yes!

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Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I thought I was crazy! It helps to know this is normal. I made my husband throw out the $80 shirt he wore that night and I threw out all of our sex toys!
The shirt because he had it on and the toys because I couldn't bear to think about *our* sex life before this. I think they were such a huge trigger because being each other's only, we had explored all of that together and seeing those things made me sad.
We're poor college students so a nice $80 shirt and probably $200 worth of toys accumulated over the years made me feel like a horrible person for throwing them away but at the time I just knew I HAD to for my mental health.
He still has the pants he was wearing that night and they are hard for me to see but he at least wasn't wearing them during the act so not as bad as the shirt. I've just decided we'll make our own memories with those pants.

Me - BS 23
Him - WS 24
His drunk ONS - 8/5/13 (sex was not completed)
DDay - 8/18/13
Junior High Sweethearts: Eachother's first & only before this.
Together 8 years, married 3 years.
No kids for awhile if at all, both in college.

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Default  Posted: 5:59 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Luckily, OW dressed just like FWH's mother, so no need to lose any of my wardrobe!


I did though throw out (donate) the clothes I was wearing the day she followed me to explain how their feelings for each other started to grow couldn't put them on again after that just reminded me of the conversation

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DDay - 06/11/09 MOW desperate fugly neighbor

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Default  Posted: 7:39 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's a serious topic, but you all crack me up. Thanks for finding humor in something as shitty as triggers! There was a post here a little while back about how elephants were a trigger. "Fuck the elephants!". Mine was the truck the "friend" drove. Too many damn black 4wd trucks on the road! Kind of like when you buy a new car, you begin noticing all the others like what you have.

But anyway, thanks for the laughs to start my day out with. But LivingALie, toothbrush in the toilet...

dday: 1/19/13
ME: mid 40's
WW: low 40'3
2 daughters, 17, 21

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Default  Posted: 9:45 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I borrowed on of my ws caps to wear doing yard work, you know, the kind you pull your pony tail through. My ws, who NEVER compliments me, all of a sudden got a big goofy smile and said, I love that look. My DD elbowed me , I suddenly remembered a visual of ow, she always wore a cap at our kids games. I ripped it off my head and said, yea I DON'T like this look. Last time I wore one.
Been with him over half my life
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank

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Default  Posted: 1:18 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My SO always talks to me about what he likes in clothes etc. A real leg man and fortunatley I can compete in that arena. I remember one time him telling me that his favorite look is a pair of skiny jeans rolled up and hi heels. Post DDay lookie what I found, a picture of the online OW in a tight shirt skinny jeans rolled up high heels posing for him in her home. I WILL NEVER USE THAT LOOK and I told him so!!!!! And he keeps minimizing his involvement beacuse it never became a PA. No..... but what other fun pics did she send? Nightmares folks....nightmares.

Me: 56
Him: 60
Together 2 1/2 years

Living together 14 months
D day May 13th 2013

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Default  Posted: 1:47 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I guess I'm lucky in a way. All my WH's OWs were whores on online dating and CL, so don't have to worry about wearing the same clothes, cause they didn't have any on. I did throw out all my "frumpy" clothes, though.

The funny part was costume shopping for my daughter. I swear some of the costume models were the same people I saw buck naked on some of those sites. My poor daughter said, "but why can't I try that one on mum?" How do you tell your little girl about that one. Sorry hun, your dad's online whore looks just like that girl,and you really don't want that one anyway, do you? (LOL) Triggers are such odd things.

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Default  Posted: 2:07 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG! Love the toothbrush in toilet! AWESOME!!

There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing

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Default  Posted: 2:13 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My DDay was finding an e mail from her to him 8 days after they met up on a trip to another province for him to pick up a new vehicle. I know they didn't make it a PA because she said in her e mail that she had wished that she had said and done more with him. The vehicle is one of my biggest triggers/concerns as every time I look at it, it reminds me of what he did behind my back to orchestrate, plan and execute that secret meeting with her. Anyone who thinks that a long distance EA or online affair won't lead to a meeting is blind to the fact that with opportunity it can and does happen,. He still doesn't think he did anything wrong because they didn't have sex.......

Me: 56
Him: 60
Together 2 1/2 years

Living together 14 months
D day May 13th 2013

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