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User Topic: I know, I know...but I gotta vent about old somewhere
cmego
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Default  Posted: 11:21 AM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

...took a break from OLD, but decided to go back on. I just keep hoping I will find a decent guy out there, and this is currently, besides Starbucks, the only way for me to meet new people. I saw one or two I am vaguely interested in meeting, so I made my profile "show" for a few days.

This man, 52 years old, sends me a really great message, so I read his profile, although out of my age interest. I couldn't believe everything he listed:
*only wants someone in her early 40's because people in his family live a long time.
*he made a ton of money and well educated so he wants someone younger that can have more "topic" conversations and can keep up with his mind.
*he looks better in person than his photos show (he looked late 50's and overweight).
*on and on about how he is a "Dr." and now is "just teaching because he has a calling"
*how he is only attracted to younger, attractive women.

...and if that wasn't enough to make me run away screaming....the clincher...

"You can have kids at home, but they can't tie you down needlessly."

I responded to his great email with, "Thank you for the email, but my kids tie me down needlessly. Good luck in your search."

Was I a bitch? I hope so.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4136 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
cmego
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Default  Posted: 11:28 AM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG....while typing my last message...I get this in my inbox:

Hello Pretty Angel

Hello,

I hope you are having a great time out there? When I look into your eyes on your photo, I can see life and my greatest dreams in you, I see strength and comfort, I see endless joy and undying faith, I see the rays of inspiration shine through the clouds, the flames of passion warm the night I see home and all of the heart's purest emotions. looking for a soul mate, it we be so blessed for you to be my Angel because you are so beautiful and attractive you got me acquainted,Please i will love to communicate with you via my private email address. The reason is that Due to the nature of my JOB i won't be able to check my meetme account all the time,Please do find a place in your heart to contact my email address.

Please Kindly Contact me with my email address ( XXX ) for us to get to know each other better.I believe God has something great for both of us.my regard to your family and have a pleasant day ahead.

With Love And Respect,

XXX

Seriously. What? Just..what? It looks like a scam email to me...and the photos look like your average joe.

Ahhh...the joys of OLD.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4136 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
just_breathe
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Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's hilarious!! What on earth? Next, he/she will write that they just inherited $2,174,277, and they need your help to transfer the money from their bank account to yours.


Married 30+
BS 54
Serial cheater-58 NPD, alcoholic/addict

Happily divorced since 2/1/11

The best way to make your dreams come true is to wake up.


Posts: 172 | Registered: Apr 2010
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 11:38 AM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow. Just...wow.

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Rella
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Default  Posted: 11:41 AM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

cmego,

You will meet a lot of "wanna-be's" on line. It's pretty obvious that this guy probably actually lives in his mother's basement! LOL

Your response was perfect. Block him from any further contact attempts. :)


Happily Divorced- final in Oct. 2009, Engaged to my True Love in Dec. 2012

When his family jokingly tells you of how "spoiled" HE was as a child, RUN- It doesn't change when they get older!


Posts: 2206 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: New England
cayc
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Default  Posted: 11:59 AM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What the hell does "tie you down needlessly" even mean?????


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

Posts: 3079 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 12:04 PM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is going on the quote thread....


I bow to those who keep their hearts open when it is most difficult, those who refuse to keep their armor on any longer than they have to, those who recognize the courage at the heart of vulnerability. - Jeff Brown

Posts: 17296 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 12:11 PM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What the hell does "tie you down needlessly" even mean?????
I just had a mental pic of a herd of toddlers staking some poor woman to the ground with cloth diapers and crib sheets- Lilliputian style!


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - ??

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6440 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 12:27 PM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good god. Is this what I have to look forward to???


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


Posts: 1615 | Registered: Dec 2012
Grace and Flowers
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Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, that second one is a scam. I got those all the time. Weirdly worded poor English, wanting to move to off-site communication ASAP, trying to be romantic, and just sounding foolish. It's just a script. I cannot tell you how many times I got those. Frequently using the EXACT SAME SCRIPT. I would just report them as scammers to the website, but there's really no stopping them....

Good luck!


I'm Happy, not Sad!

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cmego
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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had to read it a couple of times...here is some of it is, for your viewing pleasure...

"I am also very level headed and pragmatic, although I like to try new things and am very open minded. I have visited about 30 states and have also traveled to many foreign countries. I have many hobbies and interests.
I used to be a big time Wall Street executive, but I decided to get back into teaching a couple of years ago, and now teach at a major university. I have the summers off and would like to find someone who is high-powered, smart, funny, interesting, indepenedent, and passionate who is also intelligent. Ideally I would prefer someone who is low maintenance, and who lives no more than 120 miles away. It would be terrific if they were happy, goal oriented, a go-getter, and could function successfully in their own career. I like to cuddle, and intimacy are important to me.

Kids at home are fine, as long as they're not small and needlessly tie you down."

...it goes on and on...next it gets into why he should only have someone 10 years younger. Now, mind you...I know I was slightly older having my kids. But, if you are looking for someone in their early 40's isn't it a good possibility she will have youngish kids??

Isn't that the point of kids?? They DO tie you down. So, why not look for someone his own age that *generally* will have kids out of the nest? This is a man who doesn't understand the meaning of children.

Yeah, I'm getting some doozies today!

Fun times

Oh, and I looked at the one that sounded like he was going to ask me to help him with money...it is a perfectly normal looking profile. No odd misspellings in the profile, just a good 'ol country boy. But, there is only one photo, and it looks like it was taken in front of a sheet. Oh, and he lives in Utah. I'm in Virginia. I do get the occasional odd email from out of state, that wasn't too weird, the whole thing just doesn't quite add up. I wonder if I should report him? I've already blocked him.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4136 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
alphakitte
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Default  Posted: 1:08 PM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

hope you are having a great time out there? When I look into your eyes on your photo, I can see life and my greatest dreams in you, I see strength and comfort, I see endless joy and undying faith, I see the rays of inspiration shine through the clouds, the flames of passion warm the night I see home and all of the heart's purest emotions. looking for a soul mate, it we be so blessed for you to be my Angel because you are so beautiful and attractive you got me acquainted,Please i will love to communicate with you via my private email address. The reason is that Due to the nature of my JOB i won't be able to check my meetme account all the time,Please do find a place in your heart to contact my email address.

If you google this you will find that it is a romancescam that has been circulating for quite some time.


------ Some people are emotional tadpoles. Even if they mature they are just a warty toad. Catt

Posts: 349 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: 3 klicks north of Ambiguous
trumanshow
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Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

yep-a scam. I'm sure all his family is dead and he grew up in Europe

Meet me site is even worse than Match


Your ex wanting to be friends is like asking a kidnapper to stay in touch when they let you go.

The type of fierce loyalty that I possess made me incapable of comprehending the level of disloyalty that he possessed


Posts: 1747 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: Charlotte, NC
cmego
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Default  Posted: 3:50 PM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is going on the quote thread....

Jrazz, you just made my day!


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4136 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
inhishands55
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Default  Posted: 11:54 PM, October 5th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yea, be very careful on Christain Mingle too...They think if you love God they will have a special place in your heart for them....They will play with all kinds of words to get your sympathy...I don't think these men and women will ever go away on those sites...

There is a special place for those kind of people too...


Posts: 408 | Registered: Jan 2006 | From: The Tarheel State, in the mts.
ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, October 6th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"Thank you for the email, but my kids tie me down needlessly. Good luck in your search."

lol. I love it!

He sounds like as ass.


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 11:25 AM, October 6th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That other one is definitely a scam. I can't believe there is anyone that would fall for that!


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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Catwoman
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Default  Posted: 2:13 PM, October 6th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I actually met some decent folks on line. I went out a few times with someone who taught at Harvard. Fascinating fellow. I met my beloved GDM on line. He is fabulous. I had a few interesting dates that didn't go anywhere, but that is okay.

I think the key is to be discriminating. Know what you want and don't settle. Set the bar high, but be open to new experiences (I almost didn't reach out to GDM, and I know he wouldn't have reached out to me).

Are there scammers and users out there? Certainly. But there are also good people looking for something positive and healthy.

Cat


FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 25 and 22. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."

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cmego
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Default  Posted: 5:07 PM, October 6th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, I take it all with a grain of salt now. It is more humous than anything!


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4136 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
GrievingMommy
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Default  Posted: 6:39 PM, October 6th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Geez. He sounds like a winner! I guess he wouldn't like me since I have my 4 yr old twins 90% of the time....'needlessly tieing me down'.



Me - Now 36 y/o
WXH: Now 45 y/o and 18+ hrs away -NPD asshole now onto wife #3.
My sweeties: 5 yr old B/G twins. 90% custody (or more) since 14 months old.
D-Day 4/4/10 PA('s?) & EA's - D'd 7/11

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