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User Topic: I know, I know...but I gotta vent about old somewhere
cmego
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Default  Posted: 7:16 AM, October 7th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, lawd! Gotta share my old story from yesterday!!

Decent guy contacts me, no photo, but respectful, well educated, polite, I like his profile. I do notice he lists himself as "separated"...with no photo...alarm bell!

I respond to his email, since you never know, told him I needed a photo to go any further. He sends me one (to my dummy OLD email account...).

He asks if I want to go play tennis, because he is looking for "friends first".

I responded that I have enough friends, we aren't on the same place because I am ready to date. So...of course, me being me...I ask him why he wants "friends first".

His response? "Well, my ex and I will never get back together, she was cheating on me. We separated 6 weeks ago and I have my first meeting with the lawyer next week. My lawyer told me not to date. "

I told him that I wanted nothing to do with his situation, and stopped a little short of basically telling him what a stupid shit he was being on OLD at 6 weeks out.

Then he told me he was really looking to just talk to women, and could he contact me when his situation was better?

6 weeks. He hasn't even seen a lawyer yet and on OLD. Wow. That was a record for me.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4180 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
better4me
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Default  Posted: 10:02 PM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^^Yikes!^^^

Recently talked on line to a guy from OLD who wrote me about his situation; "we are separated and divorcing, but living in the same house" uh, no thanks! He keeps looking at my profile too...really guy, give yourself some time for your meal to settle before you jump in the on line dating swimming pool, you're going to get cramps!


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3207 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 3:42 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I responded to his great email with, "Thank you for the email, but my kids tie me down needlessly. Good luck in your search."

Was I a bitch? I hope so.

YOU ARE MY HERO!!!!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2724 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
clralb
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Default  Posted: 6:37 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"Oh, I have kids, but they do not tie me down needlessly. If they start to interfere with my social life, I put them in large crates with water and some Cheerios in a bowl to munch on. I know they're safe that way and I don't have to fork over my beer money for a baby-sitter.

After all, I have a life too, ya know.

I wouldn't listen to your lawyer. What does he know anyway? Heck, I just got out of a long-term relationship five days ago, and I think it's great to just jump right back on the horse. You never know when you'll miss your chance at a great catch."

Yeah, if I'm in the mood, sometimes I am quite the smartass. I amuse myself!

Thank goodness I'm not an OLD.....yet!

ETA: "Oh, yeah, I have great edumucated to. If you wanna to just conversate on the phone now and then, call me!"

[This message edited by clralb at 6:41 PM, October 11th (Friday)]


"To keep the body in good health is a duty... otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear."
Buddha

Posts: 681 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: southeast
FlySomeday
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Default  Posted: 9:38 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG CMEGO! I see some nice Gems have found you! Idiots. Just effing idiots. Guess you have to have a sense of humor to tolerate OLD. I'm in a similar situation re: no other place to meet folks. I'm getting to bail and take a break myself. Thanks for the laughs at a few of your interests though. Hilarious. Keep your chin up.

-Fly


Digging Deep in the Mud

Posts: 232 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: Virginia
cmego
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Default  Posted: 6:34 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WHAT do they think I"m going to do when I get an email like THIS from OLD?

"Your the One !!!

I just fell in love. Lol. I know it's nuts !!!!

So Beautiful.

WXXXX"


Holy crap.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4180 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
Iamhappytoday
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Default  Posted: 12:08 AM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"I am also very level headed and pragmatic, although I like to try new things and am very open minded. I have visited about 30 states and have also traveled to many foreign countries. I have many hobbies and interests.
I used to be a big time Wall Street executive, but I decided to get back into teaching a couple of years ago, and now teach at a major university. I have the summers off and would like to find someone who is high-powered, smart, funny, interesting, indepenedent, and passionate who is also intelligent. Ideally I would prefer someone who is low maintenance, and who lives no more than 120 miles away. It would be terrific if they were happy, goal oriented, a go-getter, and could function successfully in their own career. I like to cuddle, and intimacy are important to me."

I made a joke in innocent jest, a very simple joke, not realizing how minor it was that it violated guidelines.

I apologize! I honestly didn't think anything about it when I wrote it since it more speaks to past events, but message understood! :)

My apologies!

[This message edited by Iamhappytoday at 3:29 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday)]


BW 39
WH 34
2DD's 15 months at start
Together 10 years, M 9
OW 22 CW, 2kids by 2 men & youngest less than 1 when affair started.
Dday 1 8/16/12 "just texting"
TT, gaslighting, denial; was always PA; he left me for her.

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Deeply Scared
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Red  Posted: 10:02 AM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Iamhappytoday...

Please be aware of the guideline below.


NO POLITICS: We have zero tolerance of discussing politics here. No names, jokes, polls or debates are allowed. Violation of this guideline results in losing your profile.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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better4me
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Default  Posted: 12:45 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I like to cuddle, and intimacy are important to me.
Oh those pesky verb tenses...can't get past those when English isn't your native language! You'd think a high powered executive turned University professor would be able to make that last sentence a little less tell-tale! Reminds me of what my father always said "If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is a Nigerian scam."


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

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