cuz that hurt I wanted him to say they had nothing in common but he didn't and that made me sad
the other event was tonight I went to pick up food with a new girlfriend for a bunch of people we working on setting up a crossfit gym and they were buying us dinner and me and the lady were talking and she asked if my oldest was my ws I said yes I actually get this question from time to time Because I got pregnant at 16 and married at 16 I said yes he is it doesn't bother me but what Came next did I said we have been married almost 19yrs and she said omg that's awesome and before the the A would have been thrilled at that acomplishmnt but know that I know he had 8-10 A's the first 10 yrs we were married and then left me for op and wanted to marry her and told me all the hurtful things like wanting to leave me the last 2yrs I know what we have over come is huge but it's almost like my mind is saying well ya know I lived with a controlling cheating husband for 17yrs and was a doormat but yes give me compliments even thow is been hell I don't want to feel like that is awful then later that nite my new friend is putting her arms around her spouse and I thought how cute I want that now my H had changed and is more loving but her love is Un tainted and pure and mine is well .....If ur a Bs u know the rest of that thanks for listening
[This message edited by Wondertwin at 5:53 AM, October 5th (Saturday)]
"We're not broken, just bent. We can learn to love again."
I try to remind myself of this when it seems others have it better. It doesn't help that my best friend has the marriage that most would kill for.
This is your story, you've chosen to stay (for now)and you should take the compliment - there are many who would not have the fortitude to even try and make it.
Married 10 yrs
Together 11 1/2 years
I've loved him forever
4 beautiful children ages 4-12 (one not bio his) but his through love
There is not one long marriage I know that has not had its trials. Maybe it wasn't infidelity, but it has been something. And now, when I look at couples who look happy and have been married a long time, I wonder to myself what hardships they have faced together? Is it infidelity, poverty, addiction, divided families, health crisis', etc? I know these people have all faced very hard times where it would have been easier to leave.
So, when they compliment you on your long marriage, you truly earned that compliment. You are weathering a storm, and still trying to keep your commitment.