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User Topic: 3 Year Antiversary
webmistress
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Content  Posted: 8:36 AM, October 5th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can't believe I'm 3 years past the most traumatic event of my life. The day I not only found out about OW, but also OC. My heart still starts beating a little faster when I think about it. That entire next year was wretched as my H and I divorced, my father died, and I discovered OW was living with XH for awhile. Devastating.

But, for those just embarking on this journey, and think the adage "time heals all wounds" is just a good sound byte because clearly YOUR pain is unbearable.....I can tell you that time really does heal. 3 years ago I would have told you that the idea of XH and I getting back together was unthinkable. But, we're in R. It is slooooooow going, and we still have work to do, but I feel that we're in a much more positive space than we were even before the A.

My goal is to get to a place where this is just another day on the calendar. I think XH and I are going on a date tonight to enjoy ourselves and hopefully replace the bad memory this day represents, and Monday we have a counseling appointment. So hang in there if you're struggling. If your WS is truly remorseful, things will eventually fall into place.


Me: BW-42
Ex-WH: 34
Married: 6 years
DDay #1: 10/5/10, one week before our daughters 4th birthday
D official 2/23/11
DDay#2: 10/20/12, after 8 months of false R
OW: Delusional, stupid whore; OC officially XH's
In R

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AFrayedKnot
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Default  Posted: 9:05 AM, October 5th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

great update!!! Thank you for the hope. Have fun tonight


BS 40
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

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Default  Posted: 9:13 AM, October 5th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My goal is to get to a place where this is just another day on the calendar.

Sounds impossible, but it certainly can and does happen. Keep up the hard work, and enjoy your reclaiming night


ka-mai
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From time to time, I do consider that I might be mad. Like any self-respecting lunatic, however, I am always quick to dismiss any doubts about my sanity. DK

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