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User Topic: Very good feelings...
TheAmazingWondertwin
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Default  Posted: 1:52 PM, October 6th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have to say that after my emotional crash on Thursday- this weekend has been amazing. We are 9weeks into R and I know we still have a lot of road to travel...but it has been really great- and HONEST for the first time since this started.

It has been two days since I have cried.
Since I have had a rock in my chest.
Since I have felt like I cannot breathe.
It has been two days since a mind movie has played.
It has been two days since I have felt truly depressed and angry.
It has been two days of open and honest communication between H and me. (And I? Whatever)
There is so much we both have learned about eachother through this.

I am so proud of the man that I married right now. THIS is the man that I stayed for. THIS is the reason I chose to stay and fight.

I know things may get rocky again- but the man I have seen over the last 2 days (2 months really) is the man that I love.
And for the first time in a long time- I know I made the right decision.


Everyday is a new day, some good, some bad.
Me- BS 39
Him- FWS
14 years- 2 middle school children
DDay- 07-24-2013
NC broken from August 6- 24, 2013
Avalanche of Truth on November 14, 2013
Length of A: June 10th to Dday- with broken NC

Posts: 474 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: East Coast
bionicgal
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Default  Posted: 1:58 PM, October 6th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a great post. I needed some good news today!


me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
In MC & Reconciling
An affair is more like a mental break than a relationship.

I edit, therefore I am.


Posts: 1927 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
SisterMilkshake
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Member # 30024
Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, October 6th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Very happy for you Wondertwin.

You are right. You will be on a rollercoaster of emotions for awhile yet. However, you should find that the days "up" get longer and the "down" days are shorter. That is, as long as your H continues to be remorseful and you both continue working on getting an authentic connection to each other in your marriage.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9619 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
neverdidithink
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Default  Posted: 6:53 PM, October 6th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is fantastic news! I'm thrilled that you guys have found the openness and complete honesty you need to move forward. Good for you for having the courage to put it all on the table.


Me: BW 52
Him: WH 55
Married 8 years
4 20-something his and hers kids

Trying to understand the behavior of some people is like trying to smell the color 9


Posts: 324 | Registered: Sep 2013
TheAmazingWondertwin
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Default  Posted: 5:19 AM, October 7th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you twinnie! I'm going to cherish the good while its here. It is hard to trust again- but I am taking it one conversation at a time.
I will say- each conversation leads to another one and some seem so unrelated, but in the end- it all leads back. We have spent 90 percent of our free time dealing with this. But we both agree it is helping.


Everyday is a new day, some good, some bad.
Me- BS 39
Him- FWS
14 years- 2 middle school children
DDay- 07-24-2013
NC broken from August 6- 24, 2013
Avalanche of Truth on November 14, 2013
Length of A: June 10th to Dday- with broken NC

Posts: 474 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: East Coast
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