Are you 3 yrs in?
More like 4... but - little bit of an odd situation with me. I had D-Day, freaked out for about 2 weeks, then buried everything for about 2 years. It wasn't pretty. I'm really not sure how I managed it, but somehow I was able to just push everything to the side and fake my way through my M for the next 2+ years, until a series of panic attacks and a near breakdown brought me out of my fog.
I meant to add, that's when I feel the most positive about "us". We took a mini vacation about 3 weeks ago to a town about 3 hours away. WH is still talking about how much he enjoyed it and I actually did too.
I'm the opposite. This is when I feel the most negative about it, as I would love to do these kinds of things with someone that I feel connected to, but having to force myself to do it with someone that I'm lacking that connection with just makes it stick out more and that is really painful.
My W and I can still be 'intimate', but without that connection, that 'me and you against the world' feeling, it's just not the same. Me: BH, 35
Her: WW, 36
Two girls 7 & 10
Married 12 years
Dday: July, 2009
She wants answers... I'm still trying to figure out what the questions are.