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User Topic: Guardian ad litem?
Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 10:56 AM, October 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Also, your 14 year old could actually voice their opinion on where they want to live, and 13 is the age that courts recognize the opinions of the children.

Your teens will HATE this and I predict if he gets his way it won't last long.

Teens want less time with parents...both mom and dad.

With sports, studying, and friends teens lives are complex enough.

Keep your focus on what is best for the kids. Stay objective in all your language always portraying yourself as the reasonable non-vindictive one.

Document EVERYTHING, especially his recent involvement with the kids.

Try to breathe and enjoy and love your kids right now, today. I know I lost about a year of time with my kids because even though my body was there my mind was not because I was so distraught.

It all worked out in the end and both kids want nothing to do with him.



Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well. 

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hexed
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Default  Posted: 11:11 AM, October 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was lucky with the GAL. My son was about a year old at the time so he didn't have much to say on the subject.

The GAL was the one who was able to identify my DS's biodad as an NPD psycho. She was able to force him via recommendation to the court to get a full psych work up by someone trained in personality disorders. That sent him over the edge and it wasn't hard for him to be diagnosed as NPD.

This was the turning point in helping me protect DS from that psycho bastard.

YMMV - just document. Be honest. Talk to your attorney about requesting a specific GAL.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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HopeImOverIt
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Default  Posted: 12:24 PM, October 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I know for us, one of the unforseen benefits of the 50/50 was the removal of Child support since we both had DSS equally in the year. It wasn't our plan when we started, but it was a perk.

I think this is great if you both work and make the same amount of money and own roughly the same assets. But it couldn't work for SAHMs or SAHDs. They need child support until they start working - and often for many years afterwards.

I believe that most states will require that the higher income parent pay CS to the lower income parent in the case of 50/50 custody. I believe that in many cases it works as follows:

Calculate how much the low income parent would pay in CS if the high income parent had majority custody. Then calculate how much the high income parent would pay if the low income parent had majority custody. In the case of 50/50 custody, the high income parent is asked to pay the low income parent the difference between these two figures.

Example: say you are in a state that uses a simple formula of 20% of net income for CS. Then let's say parent1 nets 20,000 and parent2 nets 100,000. Parent1 would owe 20% of 20,000 or 4,000 if parent2 had majority custody. Parent2 would owe 20% of 100,000 or 20,000 if the situation were reversed. In case of 50/50 custody, parent2 pays parent1 20,000 minus 4,000 or 16,000 in CS.

If the parents have the same net income, then the amount each hypothetically owes the other is the same, and the difference is 0. So no child support is paid in this situation.


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