My family is small, very small. I have my folks and that's about it. I have one other blood relative, and that is my uncle, my mother's brother. About 12 years ago, he walked out on my aunt for the final time, after many years of alcohol abuse and repeated affairs. He moved in with and promptly married his OW, and they are together to this day.
We were never really close but after that I had little to do with him, just Christmas cards, emails, FB friends etc. By contrast, I've always been close to my aunt, and am now even more so since she's been my #1 support throughout this nightmare.
I'm going to Texas on Thursday to visit my aunt. This has been planned for some time. And now, we've just found out that my uncle has cancer. He is in treatment but obviously the outcome is not guaranteed. He may die.
I had no plans to see him on my trip, but obviously this changes things. I feel that I should see him. He and my aunt still have quite a bit of interaction so we can work with that. Here's the thing...
Neither one of us (me and my aunt) are willing to go anywhere near his OW. I'd really like to see my uncle, even though he's pretty much a stranger to me... but I will not be backed into a corner or manipulated by him into meeting his OW. I feel he may try to do this since he's cut from the same ugly NPD cloth as my X. But this is a line in the sand I feel very strongly about. I have little to say to him, NOTHING to say to her, and meeting her would be devastatingly hurtful to my beloved aunt, who has been AMAZING in her support of me over the last six months.
I'm just wondering if any of you have any thoughts on this mess. Similar experiences, things you think I should consider... any input at all would be welcome. I'm really trying to get my head straight about this before I get down there.
Me: Looking forward to the future
Him: Left behind in the past
Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. ~ JK Rowling