For all others. Music and songs affect us all in different ways, but a theme is present in this case and in many discussed here. WW and I had a chat after the weekend about lying to protect my feeling or her further shame, maybe this is a good chance to test our new communication skills. I still believe the music meant more that "just a music". It is good to hear that others have dealt with the same issue with music. In the end music is designed to make an emotional connection, just never thought it would be one where it felt like I was getting kicked in the nuts daily....lol

Believe that it will change, your feelings will change. You get to decide who you want to be in this marriage now, and I truly feel like both my fWH and I are unrecognizable compared to our pre-A selves.

The rage will pass if you want it to. Believe and hope. The worst damage to recovery is the loss of hope.

That sounded like I know something, and I really am flubbing my way through this like everyone else. Just hope we all can help each other.

All the best

I find myself wanting to hope, and wanting to move forward, but I will never allow myself to be this vulnerable with her again. We are still only three months out and I am sure there is a lot more rollercoastering ahead. I want to keep hope I have to keep hope there is more to these decisions than just me and I WW. My kids mean everything to me, and the WW is in some aspects going the extra mile, but not in all. The book "How to help your spouse heal from your affair" is supposed to arrive today. Hopefully that will be another good spot to get her on track.