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kg201
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Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've been feeling sad today. A tug of war about where things have come to with my wife and where I thought things were. I'm sad about her health and that she has chosen a path that I can't be on with her. I'm sad, but hopeful for myself. My WW will be getting a notice in the next week or so from the court...I think that is what is setting me off. But I made the decision even though it was done with mixed emotions.


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
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"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

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Default  Posted: 8:58 AM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hear you, kg. Even though they have basically made the decision for us, it doesn't make it easy.

Take care of yourself, and find joy in whatever little things you can right now. Even when the big things suck (and they do suck), you can usually find some little thing that will at least bring a temporary smile.

You're a strong motherfucker who is doing what needs to be done. Take some pride in that.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 2089 | Registered: Jan 2013
7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 10:11 AM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I remember those feelings. for me it happened when I called the lawyer and then when I actually met to start the paperwork. It's normal. You can't control what your STBXW does anymore but it's normal to mourn the relationship you had with her. Keep moving forward KG. Focus on things you want to do and know these feelings don't last forever either. It gets better.


D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Divorced 9/2/14 and loving life!

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