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User Topic: I only feel relieved
BrokenDaisy
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Default  Posted: 12:42 PM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Today was final court day and I thought I'd be an emotional mess (also 2 days before our would be anniversary) but I only feel relieved. My son is legally safe. (Was granted full custody and all legal rights for our son and xh may only see him under supervision during the day)

It's over. I had a strong reaction just after the judge questioned me (shook uncontrollably and cried quite humiliatingly) but I think that was all the anxiety finally being released. I can truly say I don't want xh back. I don't miss him. I am so relieved to be rid of him. I know there is still a lot to overcome but this is a huge step.

I can breath.


Me BxW, him SA NPD WxH
1 wonderful toddler - sole legal custody to me and supervised visitation to xwh.
DDay 01/2012
10/2013 Divorced!!

Posts: 216 | Registered: Oct 2012
jemimapd
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Default  Posted: 1:21 PM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not sure whether "congratulations" is he right word but I am glad for you and it gives me hope that I will find peace and calm along the line. Sounds it took a lot of courage to get to where you are today.


Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.

Posts: 726 | Registered: Dec 2012
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 1:38 PM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm happy for you, Honey! (((HUGS)))


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 elementary school-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 8791 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 1:48 PM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Enjoy the stress free air!

I am hoping to be in your shoes in less than two weeks...


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs, started 1994? - never stopped
Kids - 22, 20, 17
M Dissolved 2013!!!

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man, ~ Shakespeare


Posts: 828 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
SBB
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Default  Posted: 4:07 PM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can breath.

Perfectly said. I'm thrilled for you, BD!


Sending all of the love and strength I can muster to Phoenix1 and her family.
"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal."

Posts: 4565 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
BrokenDaisy
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Default  Posted: 6:42 PM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you everyone!

((Phoenix)) Good luck with the final stretch!


Me BxW, him SA NPD WxH
1 wonderful toddler - sole legal custody to me and supervised visitation to xwh.
DDay 01/2012
10/2013 Divorced!!

Posts: 216 | Registered: Oct 2012
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 6:56 PM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((brokendaisy)))


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OCyL6pa_L4M


Posts: 7254 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
dmari
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Default  Posted: 1:16 AM, October 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can breath. <<< This statement is so deep. I'm so happy that you are feeling relief and that your son is legally safe. Keep on breathing that freedom.


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
I FINALLY GOT A COURT DATE: 5/29/14!!

Posts: 1832 | Registered: Oct 2012
gma56
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Default  Posted: 1:23 AM, October 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Relieved is definitely the right word.

Breathe and I hope you feel some peace too.
Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. I lost my family but gained a second chance to be happy.

Posts: 20275 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
dindy
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Default  Posted: 4:53 AM, October 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, so glad for you. :)

Although I wasn't married to ex, I feel very relieved too that I am no longer with him, and my children only see him at weekends.

I went through a phase of not being able to breathe as my emotions were just so overwhelming. It's nice to finally be more at peace with myself.

People who cheat suck the life out of the people they are supposed to be most loyal to. My children and I have suffered so much because of xWS' actions and I can honestly say that life is now looking good for us without him in it.

My dreams are slowly turning into reality and I know my children can only benefit from this. There is so much to be grateful for and look forward to.

Enjoy your new freedom! :)


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Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, October 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well done, BrokenDaisy. What a long and painful process.

They say that Journey's End is also a path to new beginnings.

Maybe finally putting all the papers away will be the end of tears and you can sign on for new things.


Ashland 13

The only thing that stays the same, is change. -M. Etheridge


Posts: 1965 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
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