Then last night I asked him a question. He had told me after I found out about the pictures that he justified getting them from her because he was just using it as a release (since our sex life wasn't that great). I asked him if he had ever thougt of asking me to do it instead and he said he didn't think I would. I then said "You realize now it was more than just a release right?" and asked if he gave it any more thought . He said "no because that's what he thought it was"...I was shocked!! I had NO idea he still thought of it that way. He KNOWS it was wrong so that's a good thing but there has to be more to it than that for him to end up in an actual PA (where he thought they were in love) right? We have SO much to deal with but I don't want to push this too much if this is something I'm making more than it was.
[This message edited by AML04 at 2:28 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)]
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Wondertwin-that sounds like a great idea. Not sure how we would do it but we definitely need to get into that more.
Bionicgal-I actually agree that most affairs are forms of escape of at least they start that way. His IC told him the same thing. I just don't know how it went as far as it did without it being something more.
Roses-I am so sorry. My H & his OW had iPhones so I have no idea the amount of texts they really sent but if I had to guess it would be in the 1000s. It was constantly going off.