You will become more angry as reality sets in..prepare yourself. The anger was present on dday with me..but it didn't fully kick in until after the shock wore off at 5 months out.
Also..you found out just a few days ago..he is not remorseful. True remorse takes time. He has no idea how much damage he has caused yet. He is still reeling from the shock of you finding out. he may be saying all the right things..but watch his actions. Words are easy. Actually going to IC,MC,reading books,talking about his A,answering your questions,and riding the emotional roller coaster e has put you on and how he handles himself through all of this will show you if he is remorseful.
Some people would say that a sexting affair is a PA and an EA. If he was getting off based on their interaction..texts..videos..pics..that's physical,even if he didn't actually touch her. And if they were complimenting each other during the sexting,stroking each other's egos..that's an EA.
I only say this because he will possibly try to minimize what he did"it wasn't an affair..I didn't touch her ..it was "just"...It was "only"...don't let him minimize what he has done.BS(me)41
M: June 2001
Status: Currently in R..very happy with this *new* husband!
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.