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Default  Posted: 9:53 PM, October 12th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Holy Christ on a crutch (says the church administrator)! Tushnurse took the words right out of my mouth.

I have to join in the chorus as to why in the name of Beelzebub you are going to MC with his man. You go to MC to try to, jointly, save a marriage. Not to have the mental crap beaten out of you by a un-repentant ass whose only goal is to stab you as many times as possible while trying to hide his blood-lust from someone you pay to try to put yourselves together.

I have no hesitation about saying such things because, unfortunately, in my job, I see it all the time. The unrepentantent, the liers, the gamers, using the word of God to justify their desires. Your WH is just another one of the takers that we see coming through our offices and through our Sanctuaries each and every day/week.

You know that what he's saying is bull. He's trying to justify that which cannot be justified. He is sacrificing you on the alter of his ego. Please. Save yourself. Walk away. You have nothing to lose but an anchor that ties you to unstable ground. (((hugs)))

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 4915 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He is not a Christian. He is a HYPOCRITE. He is the anti-Christian. He is fucking Satan.

Don't listen to another word he says. DON'T go to counseling anymore with this asshole. Don't waste another breath of air talking to him. Email/text about legal stuff or kids and pretend he doesn't exist.

I hate people who hide behind religion but are, in reality, piece of shit hypocrites.

“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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Default  Posted: 9:22 AM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And please, please stop attempting MC with him. Nothing good is coming from it and you keep getting more and more hurt. In the MC's office you are a sitting duck, a nice easy target for him to fire his shit at. You need to stop giving him this opportunity. Every time it inflates his ego more, and drains your heart and spirit more. Please put a stop to it.


Why, oh WHY are you paying a professional to give your WH an avenue to crush you???

STOP. Put your time, money, and effort into your own IC. Now, HE rocks! I completely agree with your counselor. HE will help you heal. Expending ANY more effort into MC with your WH is only giving him an audience and avenue to hurt you.

Please stop going.


"Anyone perfect must be lying; anything easy has its cost. Anyone plain can be lovely; anyone loved can be lost." Barenaked Ladies

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Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Add me to the "STOP MC with this man!" contingent.

MC with an unremorseful, unrepentant asshole is emotional suicide.

BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8827 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
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Default  Posted: 2:40 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with the others, do not continue MC with this man. My NPD XWH#1 did the exact same thing when I filed for D. He all the sudden wanted to be a Christian and act like Father of the Year. He can act and do whatever he wants, but you know the real person and what he is capable of. My XWH#1 has been through many churches since our D, but his family now want nothing to do with him. He could fool the people at church, but he couldn't hide behind them all the time.

M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

Posts: 2420 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
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Default  Posted: 2:57 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I say this with all due respect to everyone who believes and follows their own religious path.

But I truly cannot stand anyone who uses religion after the fact of being caught in an affair.

Sadly we as humans run these religious institutions, and it is human nature to have very good true human beings giving advice and then other human beings who have an agenda. When someone uses religion to mask whatever they are doing wrong really makes me mad and sad.

Don't let your WS and that stupid IC use religion to blame you for anything.

And I agree with others. Please stop MC with this person.

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Default  Posted: 4:31 AM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FUCK THAT GUY and the bible he rode in on.


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