I hadn't ever thought deeply about this subject. When I signed up at SI I read the mission statement and the guidelines and felt they were fair and good. My expectation was that the mission statement and guidelines would be upheld. I have spent the past few days thinking about this and these are the thoughts I have come up with. These are not meant to cause drama or controversy. It is merely my thoughts and opinions.
I personally feel, for me, it would be presumptuous of me to have expectations of volunteers who do nothing but serve me.
I thought of an analogy that might make my feelings more clear.
There was this very hungry man. In fact, he might be starving. He finds a soup kitchen. He is served a meal by volunteers at the soup kitchen. The food was good and some of it was quite delicious. However, after the meal the man decided he didn't like the way the volunteers served the meal. Instead of just appreciating the meal and leaving quietly, he decided to complain to the volunteers. He told them how they could serve him better, he told them how they could run the soup kitchen better. He also suggested that maybe they had ulterior motives in serving him food that weren't entirely altruistic. He even thought the volunteers owed him more than what they had already given. That man didn't seem very appreciative of what was freely given to him.
It isn't melodramatic of members here saying that SI saved their lives. I have read many stories here of members attempting or contemplating suicide. Many have said that SI literally saved their lives. I believe it. When I found SI I felt I was on the verge of a nervous breakdown. I feel SI saved my sanity.
I can never say "thank you" enough to the SI staff. I will forever be grateful for and indebted to you for maintaining this site. I am so humbled by the sacrifices that all the volunteers here make. I am humbled by all the members here who have virtually held my hand, hugged me, cried with me, understood me, supported me, advised me, and just cared about me.
Respectfully and gently, I would like to suggest to any member who says "I really appreciate all the volunteers here, but............" to really think about what your "expectations" are of people, volunteers, who sacrifice greatly to serve you.
I sincerely hope this post is taken in the spirit that it was meant, and that spirit is extreme gratitude.
Peace and Serenity to all who travel here.
eta: fixed two words
[This message edited by SisterMilkshake at 6:10 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)]
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson
SMS, very well-written.
What she said.
Very well said.
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
Thank you so much!!! That was really nice of you
"I'm happily indifferent to the ones who have consistently been wrong" ~kd lang~
They and this site gave me hope when there was none. Literally. I was beyond despair and spiraling down. Lost 20% of my body weight in the first 3 months, I was vomiting blood at night when I would wake from the mind movies. I won't say suicidal, but I can't honestly discount it either.
Then I found SI. I lurked for months, I would want to sign up to post a question, but without fail, within a day, someone would ask the same thing. It's quite something to realize the commonality we all share.
I finally did sign up! Best club I never wanted to join. From the bottom of my mending heart, I say thank you to MH and DS and ALL the volunteers who make this site what it is. Regardless of the outcome of my R, I will try to pay it forward. I'll stick around for a while and try to help when and where I can.
Thanks SMS for the post.
[This message edited by 5454real at 5:45 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)]
D-Day, June 10, 2012
I feel SI saved my sanity.
^^This. Not to mention $$$$ saved on more IC, $$$$ saved on more books, and who knows how much more time it would have taken to heal without SI. So much of what I needed then and still need now is here, for free. Thank you DS & MH and staff, from the bottom of my heart.
Ditto the love button 😍😍😍
Love is a Verb.
Thank you all for that.
[This message edited by carnelian at 6:19 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)]
Both had DDays and TT
Do not let others be your reference for who you see in the mirror.
Stop allowing people to hurt you, because you don't love you enough to walk away.
I, too, would like to jump on this train and thank SI for all they do, day and night, day after day, year after year!
Thank you, MH and DS!!!!!