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sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 9:49 AM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hmmm .... Would I rather a qualified person in a program I value watch my son or a girl who strips for a living and hooked up w a married man? Tough call....
Exactly!


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3348 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 3:33 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

But if he is asking for first right of refusal, he is not going to have stripper whore picking my kid up for him...that defeats the whole purpose. And while I am grateful that she can manage playing at this game...she is 'just' managing. She is not ideal nor someone I would ever choose to watch my son. If he cannot pick up his son on what is my custody time, then I choose daycare over stripper whore.

I agree. If he is trying to get more time when Teslet is supposed to be with you and then he is having stripper whore pick up Teslet, that's not right. He also could be trying to show a case where he actually is having more time with Teslet and then use that against you to change the custody arrangement to lessen his CS payment. With these additional comments you added I would say to be careful. I don't know if he is smart enough to think of something like this but he might be.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

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Posts: 3415 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
TrustGone
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Default  Posted: 4:10 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would not allow it for one minute. If he was spending time with him that would be one thing, but stripper whore...Hell No!!!!

I was letting my DS8 go to his Dad's after school until I got off work.(He didn't work). Come to find out he had his OW watching my son and then wanted to have an arguement every night in front of my son when I went to pick him up. It got so bad one night I had to call the police in order to get my son. I immediately put him in Daycare and stopped his visitation except when I was ordered to let him have him. You say that Teslet is having problems when coming back from his Dad's, so that would be my clue that they didn't need him anymore than they have him now.


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M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
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Posts: 2420 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
tesla
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Default  Posted: 7:51 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I sent him my response. He sent me a baiting text. I sent him crickets.

This morning before school, Teslet's teacher calls me and says she received an email from ex-shat. Ex-shat wants to add his fiancee to the pick-up list because he needs to sleep.

I'm going to leave out a lot of details here because I just don't know where this is going yet...but the school decided until ex-shat produces something legal that their understanding of the divorce decree was that I got to make the call in this.

I heard from my lawyer, she says this isn't a black and white situation but she believes that my position is correct. She hasn't steered me wrong yet.

So ex-shat tried to goad me, then he tried to bully the school to get what he wanted. I guess that's his bark.

Now I'll wait and see if he has any bite.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4629 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
tesla
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Default  Posted: 7:53 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I nearly forgot...

FTG.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4629 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
SBB
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Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For fucks sake. Is any of this about spending time with Teslet or is all of it about getting you to do the Drama Llama Hokey Pokey with him?

Out of curiosity what was your response to his request?

I heard from my lawyer, she says this isn't a black and white situation but she believes that my position is correct. She hasn't steered me wrong yet.

You would have to think they wouldn't add anyone both parents don't agree on unless there are extraneous circumstances eg. X loses drivers licence, breaks a leg or something like that.

I doubt him wanting to sleep whilst his whore spends his visitation with his child will cut it. I mean he doesn't live 4 hours away from school so it is clear he will continue sleeping when teslet gets there. Or is he fighting for an extra 30m of sleep?

This time isn't even for his agreed visitation, it is for his extra visitation. Aside from the fact that you believe her to be incompetent it sets a precedent so he could claim he is spending more time with him than he is and/or he is planning on claiming he could manage 50/50. Built-in, non-working SAHM, IYKWIM... there has to be more he is concocting here than 30m of sleep.

Fuck.That.Shit and FTG. If he can't manage visitation as it stands then perhaps visitation or his job require a revisit.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My response: only you and I can pick him up from school.

It is technically correct. It is what we have done this year. And it puts the burden of doing the work of changing it on him.

He gains an additional hour of sleep by having his 'fiancée' pick Teslet up.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4629 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
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Default  Posted: 9:37 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The point that some of you are missing is that Stripper Whore is not the OWife; she is the OWhore. That makes all the difference in the world.

Stick to your guns. Having StripperWhore pick up Teslet is so that the exShat can sleep is not facilitating parenting time.


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Posts: 20170 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
Housefulloflove
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Default  Posted: 10:17 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"No she cannot pick him up." and I would go so far as letting the daycare know her name and description and that I do not and will not ever give my permission for her to pick him up no matter what the other parent says.

I don't think the daycare would be willing to release him to stripperwhore without some official document saying it's OK after you explicitly say it's not no matter what your ex says. That would be quite a risk on their part.


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Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
peridot
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Default  Posted: 10:36 PM, October 11th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would also tell the daycare to not allow him to add her to the list of people who can pick Teslet up.


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It is what it is.


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