I managed to stand up for myself with WH today in a calm, and I hope, appropriate manner. Last night he said he wasn't going to be able to take DS#1 to practice tonight. I just sort of nodded and agreed because I thought he was going to be attending calling hours for an employee of his who passed away.
This morning I read in the paper that calling hours were tomorrow morning, not this evening. I was furious!!! What the heck else was more important than this commitment he had to his son?
So I called him this morning after I dropped the kids off. I didn't rant and rave, I didn't yell. I just calmly asked what his plans were for this evening that were keeping him from doing what he was supposed to for his child. He immediately said he had been planning to go out but he would change his plans and do the practice. I told him I thought that was fair, and let it go.
I was pretty proud of myself. I could have let it go and taken DS myself or figured out arrangements for him fuming the entire time because I was so pissed, but it was something that is WH's responsibility, and its not fair to me to have to deal with it. And its not fair to DS.
I am proud that I handled it calmly and rationally. And, I am especially proud that I did NOT apologize. During the conversation I caught myself about to say I was sorry for messing up his plans, how stupid is that? But I didn't.