I think all of these actions are fine, but this is coming from a fellow co-dependent
But from where I stand is that I know to require him to do something in return
I'm personally not in the school of thought to punish Waywards consistently through not doing nice things for eachother, and one needs to push through it. However that's only if R has a chance from the wayward.
I hope a fellow co-dependent can hop on and give you some better advice, as I still struggle a bit!