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User Topic: Is year 2 easier?
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Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In some ways, yes, its easier. I have let go of some of the anger and when I do get mad or upset its not consuming me like it was. Its always going to be a part of us and I don't like that. Cant change it so acceptance has come but I don't like it.

Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile

Posts: 1647 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
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Default  Posted: 7:20 AM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We hit our 2 year mark on the 6th. Things are easier now because I've forgotten some of the smaller A things that use to bother me day to day. I don't feel the need to check up on him the way I did before. I don't depend on him the way I use to, I know I can be happy on my own, I'm stronger and I can laugh now...a real laugh.

The downside is that I don't feel like I NEED him anymore. It's too easy to bring up divorce, and to mean it (which we never talked about before the affair). There are some details of the affair that I haven't been given an acceptable answer it's to the point where he feels like I should be done asking but I feel stuck.

Year 2 feels very stale but I've gotten back to being me and so I know I'm going to be OK no matter how this turns out!

The first step to living the life you want is leaving the life you don't want.

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