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User Topic: Saying goodbye to Mom
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wrote a few months ago that my mom is receiving hospice care. This morning, on the advice of the hospice staff, my dad made the heartbreaking decision to withdraw future feeding and let mom go.

I am spending today sitting by mom's bedside, holding her hand, and reassuring her that it's ok to let go. It may be a week or two before she passes, or this may be my last moments with her. Either way, nothing has been left unsaid, and I am at peace.

Or so I think. My heart has a different opinion, it seems.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


Posts: 24435 | Registered: Aug 2011
Myname
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Default  Posted: 1:25 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry NIK. (((())))


DD: 1-14-09 EA/PA OM #1
TT: 5-11&12-09
DD#2: 5-18-09 EA OM #2
5-31-09: Told me she hasn't loved me.
No kids
Me BH: 38
12-08-10: S

Posts: 2925 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Inside your computer.
boontje
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Default  Posted: 1:26 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((NIK))))


Me: BS
Dday: June 2011
Working on R, one day at a time

The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.”
― Ernest Hemingway



Posts: 934 | Registered: Aug 2011
MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 1:28 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK)))


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 51511 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
lost_in_toronto
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Default  Posted: 1:30 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((nik)))


Me: BS/39
Him: WS/37
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 14 years.
Reconciled.

Posts: 1652 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: not toronto anymore
woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry, NIK. I was in a similar place 2 years ago.

Enjoy the precious little time you have left to hold her hand.

(((((biggest hugs)))))


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7781 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
gma56
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Default  Posted: 1:34 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK and family)))

The heart is never in the same place as what has to be done during such difficult moments. She knows you are there and you love her, that is enough. She's OK because she knows her family loves her and are there with her.
Sending strength and prayers.
Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. I lost my family but gained a second chance to be happy.

Posts: 20323 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 1:37 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((NIK))))) my dad just died so I know what you are going through. May I make a suggestion? Can you tell your mom:"Mom, I forgive you for everything."

I didn't have a chance to tell my dad before he died. But I did tell him afterwards. -I think they need to hear us say it to them. I know they try their best but I bet they feel they let us down at times...


Posts: 2478 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: With my dad...and my dog...
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 1:38 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK)))

I am so happy that you have been afforded the opportunity to make this lsat bit of time with her peaceful.

((((and peace, and strengthto you and your family))))


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 7799 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Undefinabl3
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Default  Posted: 1:41 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK)))

I get this. It was the same with my grandmothers and while I found questions later, at the time, they knew the important stuff and I knew they loved me, which was really all that mattered.

I still talk to them alot. In the car, on a walk, and in a pinch I just say WWGD?

What would Grama's Do?...cause they were the smartest, sweetest, nicest women you would never want to piss off

I am so sorry this is happening. I am praying for you and your family.


Me: 31 MH
Him: 37 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 1:44 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((nik)))

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TattoodChinaDoll
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Default  Posted: 1:46 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((NIK)))) Prayers for the whole family.


Me (BW): 32
WH: 33 TimeToManUp
Married: 10 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 8, 5, 2, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011

I'm getting out of here.


Posts: 1706 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 1:47 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My prayers for all of you.

I remember these moments with my mom. Truly treasured moments that brought me much peace. My prayer is that is what you experience as well.

(((nik & family)))

AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


Posts: 21032 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
MissesJai
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Default  Posted: 1:47 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK)))

I'm glad you are at peace.


FWW - 40
I'm big on personal responsibility. Own your shit. ALL OF IT.

Posts: 5767 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: So Cal.....
sinsof thefather
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Default  Posted: 1:50 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((NIK))))

Prayers going up for you and your whole family.


...second star to the right and straight on till morning.

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confused615
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Default  Posted: 1:51 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((((((NIK))))))))))


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7140 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Nik)))

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 1:56 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK & family)))


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13565 | Registered: Jul 2011
jjsr
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Default  Posted: 1:56 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending good thoughts to you and your parents and family


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile

Posts: 1592 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Texas
woundedwidow
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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, October 14th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My prayers are with you, your Mom, and your family. I wish I had had the chance to say "goodbye" to my Mom; those are such precious moments. (((NIK)))


Be careful what you wish for the most - you may get it.

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