However, if you WS is not remorseful, I think you are wasting your time.
My energy is better spent on other tasks.
I am 13 months out, 4 months into tentative R. Our pre-A M was characterized by me gathering and my wife waiting....so I also have a bias there...need to break this cycle as it feeds into both of our FOO issues....it is very comfortable to us but has proven to be equally unhealthy.
Thought I needed to add that.
God be with us all.