I've never handled it well when I know for a fact that someone is lying to me. That's my downside. I do wish I could handle it much better.
Well, I receive an email from my son's teacher asking if I've reviewed four papers and signed them because he failed them.
One paper she gave him three chances to do, twice on his own and once with her. He received a 0% the two times he did the work and then a 100% when she helped him. Because of the first two zero's he felt it was fair to be graded with a C, so that's what she did.
Needless to say I was floored when I read her email. When he came home I asked him if he received his science test back, he said no. I asked if it was the one about photosynthesis, he said yes (I wanted to double check the subject before I jump to any conclusion.) So he lied to me that he didn't get his test back when in fact he hid the work from me and only gave it to me because I questioned him.
I am pissed. I told him (loudly) that I'm not mad about the grades, I told him we can work on that. I then told him that I was mad at his lying. I said that I make myself available each day to help them with their homework and I've done this since he was four years old. I asked him how I can help him if I don't see/know that he's failing in his school work.
He understood what I was saying. I'm just so mad at the lying. I told him that it makes it look like I don't care about him or his school work when the teacher has to come to me to find out where the work I'm supposed to sign is. Ugh...
He tells me about all his good grades, but hides his bad grades and those are the papers I NEED to see so I can help him.
I'm just so frustrated. Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Him - (Doesn't matter)
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D-Day #3 Feb 15th & 16th 2010, D-Day #4 Nov 29th 2010