Cheating Hurt by Infidelity
Betrayal Wayward Donations lying
Welcome

Forums

Guidelines

Find a Local Counselor

The Healing Library

Media

Contact Us
lies
cover
In Association with Amazon.com
Support
Infidelity -
-
Find a Local Couselor
like us on facebook
You are not logged in. Login here or register.
[Register]
Newest Member: ISurrender (44064)

Divorce/Separation Post Reply     Print Topic    
User Topic: Wow. I didn't know it was possible
tesla
♀ Member
Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

for him to sink lower.

There are dates this month where ex-shat wanted to pick up Teslet after pre-k and spend the afternoon with him until I was done coaching. First week went off without a hitch. Second week, he calls off both times because he is being forced to work doubles. He asks if stripper whore can start picking up Teslet while he sleeps. I say no. School decides to preserve status quo until he provides something legal that says they should do otherwise...

...so bring on today. He's supposed to pick Teslet up from pre-k. I text before school starts if we can delay the exchange time by 15 minutes. Crickets from him.

I text again in the afternoon asking if he had received my message and could he confirm that the new exchange time was ok. Crickets again.

I'm on my way to my afterschool obligation and I get a phone call from Teslet's school. Ex-shat never came to pick Teslet up. They sent him to daycare (school has a daycare onsite). He didn't call them or send them an email.

Fucker. He better be unconcious in a hospital bed. How the fuck do you raise a big stink about your father's rights at the school because you can't get your way regarding stripper whore picking up your kid AND THEN BLOW OFF YOUR VISITATION??!!

How the hell do you ignore texts where it is crystal fucking clear that I believe that my son is in your care AND HE'S NOT!!!!

Piece of shit mother fucker. I knew all this posturing and playing at super dad was an act to make him look good. It's always about him.

Fuck you, ex-shat. I will pick up the pieces for Teslet. He can't count on you and he knows it. Congratulations, each selfish ass thing you do shows Teslet exactly how he ranks in your universe.

He fucking blew off his son. Un-fucking-believable.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4522 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
BlueWoman
♀ Member
Member # 36849
Default  Posted: 8:25 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh for fuck's sake...really?? I'm so sorry.


Me: BS, 36
Married 13 years, 2 kids
Multiple DDs over past 7 years
Latest DD: 8/18/2012--the worst one of all. Ugh.

Posts: 142 | Registered: Sep 2012
Chrysalis123
♀ Member
Member # 27148
Default  Posted: 8:39 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Give them enough rope and....

Document, detach and carry on. He won't do better than this.

I know how hard this is parenting with a lower muppet. I am sorry.


Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well. 

Posts: 2605 | Registered: Jan 2010
silverhopes
♀ Member
Member # 32753
Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know much about this stuff, but can you document it and have it in case the courts need or want to re-evaluate custody/visitation/et al? Teslet needs your stability! He blows off his own son, he is really not a stable parent. I'm so sorry.


Find peace. Or sleep on it.
"Not my monkeys. Not my circus." ~Polish proverb (<~~~ as a codependent person, this comes in handy sometimes!)

Posts: 3872 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: California
Feeling Consumed
♀ Member
Member # 30592
Default  Posted: 10:22 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a total shithead. How bad for you that you can't make plans because you can't depend on ex-shat asshole.


Spent half my life with an Ahole
D final!!! 11-11

"Obladi oblada life goes on...."


Posts: 344 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Wisconsin
Gemini71
♀ Member
Member # 40115
Default  Posted: 11:22 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I bet it'll be a cold day in hell before you accommodate ex-shat seeing Teslet during your custodial time ever again. So sorry you have to go through this.

On the bright side, my required 'Parenting Class' said that as long as one parent is a good parent, the kids still get the benefit.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 1454 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
Nature_Girl
♀ Member
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 11:32 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This just made me cry. I'm so sorry.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9138 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
newlysingle
♀ Member
Member # 38735
Default  Posted: 1:09 AM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm pissed off for you and Teslet. I can so see the Gnat doing the same thing. I'm so over these assholes.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 787 | Registered: Mar 2013
thebighurt
♀ Member
Member # 34722
Default  Posted: 1:28 AM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know how hard this is parenting with a lower muppet. I am sorry.

I'm sorry, but isn't lumping this particular form of lowlife in with muppets, even the lower ones, an insult to ALL muppets??

(((Tesla and teslet))) Your little guy knows he can count on you.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

Posts: 2174 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
SBB
♀ Member
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 5:26 AM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You have GOT to be fucking kidding me?

Getting you back by abandoning teslet?

Poor little guy.

Fuck me it is times like these I'm glad I don't have a gun licence or a gun. L.I.V.I.D.

We had a similar mix up with my 5 year old where the sad clown forgot that he hasn't booked after care on Tuesdays because my mum usually picks them up. My mum cancelled weeks ago and he forgot no after-care. Teacher couldn't reach him so called me. I was on my way whilst calling his mobile over and over then decided I should call his work (OWUmpteen is his office gopher - yuck). In the end it was an honest mistake and he bolted over immediately and apologised to me and the teacher profusely.

I have a feeling in this instance it is simply simply and act of atrocious fuckery.

Get a statement from pre-K and call your L to see if you have any avenues of recourse here.

Un-fucking-believable. What a piece of c-nt!!

Big hugs to you mamma and to your lovely little boy who deserves so much better than that fucking spineless monster.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

Posts: 5227 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
tesla
♀ Member
Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 6:08 AM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There are four more dates to go through yet. Do I keep handing this guy rope to hang himself with?

I guess I just need to have a back up plan when it happens again. And then say no next time he asks for additional parenting time.

I had to bring Teslet to the CC meet where ex-shat's step mom was able to meet me and take him over to her house. So yay for ex-shat's step-mom and dad getting to spend some time with Teslet. (Ex-shat never takes him over there).

Our court date is still on in two weeks. I don't even know what to expect from ex-shat. Will he show? If he shows will he bring stripper-whore? Will he try to rant about his father's rights and how much 'extra' money he's given me?

Is it bad of me to hope he fell off the face of the earth?


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4522 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Whalers11
♀ Member
Member # 27544
Default  Posted: 6:10 AM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think this is perfection justification for you to no longer make visitation accomodations for him.


Me: BGF - 33
Together 11+ years - not married, no children.
D-Day: 2/9/2010
OC Born: 10/9/2010
Status: He chose OW/OC and left immediately.

Posts: 2138 | Registered: Feb 2010
Chrysalis123
♀ Member
Member # 27148
Default  Posted: 8:19 AM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I guess I just need to have a back up plan when it happens again. And then say no next time he asks for additional parenting time.

I pretend Npd-ft is dead. I never figure him into the equation, because if he knows I want something he will do everything in his power to ruin it.

Ever since I changed my mindset to "he is dead" my world became much easier.


Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well. 

Posts: 2605 | Registered: Jan 2010
ajsmom
♀ Member
Member # 17460
Default  Posted: 8:48 AM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Get a backup plan in place and stick to your agreement.

Sometimes I think he pulls this shit to get more stars on his "Daddy Done Good" board on his refrigerator.

Every single time you give this ass an inch...


AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


Posts: 21029 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
timeforchange
♀ Member
Member # 27454
Default  Posted: 11:41 AM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He goes to enormous lengths to steal the dog and refuses to give it back and then blows out his own son???????????

Wow

Am speechless!!!!!!!!

What a x$@"


Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12

“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”


Posts: 726 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Expats in Europe
nowiknow23
♀ Guide
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 11:53 AM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((teslet)))))


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


Posts: 24216 | Registered: Aug 2011
devistatedmom
♀ Member
Member # 24961
Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Backup plan? No, I would go the other way. I would cancel this extra time all together.

"Ex-Shat, since you didn't pick up Teslet today from pre-k for your extra time, I can no longer trust that you will pick him up the other days you said you would. Therefore, I will not require you to get him on (list the dates), I have made other arrangements."

I'm sure then he will get a response to you.


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


Posts: 5336 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
Housefulloflove
♀ Member
Member # 38458
Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He could only keep up the act for so long. I'm sorry Teslet has to deal with having a walking pile of shit for a father. My son is dealing with something similar and seeing the disappointment on his face is heartbreaking.

A son wants to look up to their father and instead they have to look down to see a tragically immature SOB.


Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
SBB
♀ Member
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He goes to enormous lengths to steal the dog and refuses to give it back and then blows out his own son???????????

Exactly.

Tesla, I personally would not give him an opportunity to let Teslet down again. I would do as devistatedmom suggests - UNLESS he was unconscious in a ditch somewhere.

"Ex-Shat, since you didn't pick up Teslet today from pre-k for your extra time, I can no longer trust that you will pick him up the other days you said you would. Therefore, I will not require you to get him on (list the dates), I have made other arrangements."


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

Posts: 5227 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
ruinedandbroken
♀ Member
Member # 29250
Default  Posted: 9:11 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is it bad of me to hope he fell off the face of the earth?

Nope! And if he did fall off the earth, lets hope my ex fell off with him!


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

Posts: 1555 | Registered: Aug 2010
Topic Posts: 43
Pages: 1 · 2 · 3

Return to Forum: Divorce/Separation Post Reply to this Topic
adultry
Go to :
madness  
© 2002 - 2014 SurvivingInfidelity.com. All Rights Reserved.