Our FOO issues served a positive beneficial purpose....it kept us from harm.
I have to agree with you Blake. The thing is, when we are a child, we really have no recourse, we deal with what we are dealt the best way we can. Our childlike minds create coping mechanisms to handle unpleasant situations.
Our MC recently was addressing my WH over a FOO coping mechanism he has when dealing with his mother.
My WH tends to treat me the same way as his does his mother when situations arise that resemble his childhood dynamic he had with her. And this behavior is one that triggers a FOO reaction in me.
Our MC simply stated that his coping mechanism he used with his mother is not an effective strategy with his wife, me.
He called to light that he needed to stop using it with me because he is now an adult and adults have choices.
It was a very interesting session.
Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...
When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl
"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."