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Default  Posted: 9:56 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So 3 years ago KB rear-ended someone in rush hour traffic. It, thankfully, being rush hour he was going >5mph. Basically a "bump". Anyway, he bumped his little car into big 4X4 truck. Big truck, barely a scratch; little car front end totaled.

So, DDay#2 comes around and he's coming clean...pretty much the end of TT. Turns out he was texting one of his APs when it happened. I remember just nodding and adding it to my mental list of how he's screwed up our M royally. Well, 3 year mark is coming around, so I reminded him he needed to contact the insurance company to make sure it's dropped off. Then it all came back. I triggered (and still am) hard.

Ugh...more in the cost of adultery. Deductible, rental, ticket and 3 years of higher insurance rates. Makes me want to puke.

Just call me Heart. :)
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything" ~Mark Twain

Posts: 375 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: St. Louis
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Default  Posted: 10:00 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Heart)))) I'm sorry, honey.

You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox

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Default  Posted: 6:57 AM, October 17th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


It really is amazing how an A sends its tentacles through the rest of your life. Nothing is unaffected.

I hope today is better for you.

Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12

"People who live in a glass house have to answer the door" -Karl Pilkington

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Default  Posted: 6:59 AM, October 17th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better. Reconciled from the A's but still working hard for a better tomorrow.
"Knowing is half the battle"

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Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, October 17th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Triggers suck, but I can't help thinking every trigger is a step toward healing....


FBH (me) - 65+, FWW (her) - 65+, Married 45+, together almost 49 (as of January, 2014)
DDay - 12/2010
Almost Recovered
I share my own experience not because I'm a good model but because it's the only experience I know.

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