Ok, back to the original question.
This divorce has already cost (between the 2 of us) $75k. This is because he did not want me to get a dime of his retirement. He would rather givie it over to the lawyers.
I didn't pay my lawyer a dime the first 1.5 years of this 3 year+ divorce, except the $2,500 retainer.
She saw my SAWH's retirement funds and said that my fees would be taken out of that and they were. He had to take the distribution to give me my half and it was split between both lawyers.
Now, I am having to continue paying in installments because this is an ugly, ugly divorce where he does not agree to a dam thing!
My lawyer has 30 yrs experience and her father before her was a divorce lawyer too. She knew her money was coming via the retirement fund so no problem.
Oh and the $75k was AFTER we went to see the mediator twice!