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User Topic: Husband left for another state
Freed
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Default  Posted: 2:07 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, there is a bit of backstory here. Our oldest son passed away as the result of a tragic accident in March. Our surviving child is 4. I was the one watching the children at the time of the accident. Because I was alone, there was an investigation by CPS. Husband was granted sole conditional custody because we lived together.

This summer he worked for a moving company. Three-ish weeks ago he told me he had another job; going to Virginia and would be back in about 2 weeks. Wednesday night I called him-he was not in VA. He was in TN with a girl. He has been talking to this girl since September and planned to leave me. He talked about coming back to take our 4 y/o away with him. There is an emergency planning mtg. with CPS on Monday to grant sole custody to someone else. Hearing next Thursday.


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Truly
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Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Hello Freed,

I just wanted to say that I am so very, very sorry for the pain and anguish you are going through. The loss of a child is devastating, ((((((HUGS))))))
You are being incredibly brave and strong.
I hope that things go really well on Monday.

I am so sorry that your 'husband' is being a far cry from the man you need in your life right now.

Stay strong, you are in my thoughts


There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Charles Dickens


Posts: 257 | Registered: Sep 2013
Healing2012
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Default  Posted: 3:00 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry for the loss of your son. I cannot even begin to imagine...

Do you mean that sole custody would not be granted to you or your husband? I can't believe that CPS would look favorably upon a husband/father who just up and left his family. I don't know much about how this all works, but was his conditional custody set for a certain amount of time?

Sending you peace and strength...


BS: Me (41)
WS: Husband (47)
Married 9 years
Two children 6 & 17 (my stepson)
D-day #1: 12/18/11
D-day #2: 8/26/12 (still in contact w/ OW)
Status: Separated - not R, not D.

Posts: 359 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Midwest
Truly
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Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Freed,

It's Monday on my side of the world, so sending you best wishes today.
Things are slow here at the weekends but please post back as the wonderful people here on SI will offer you amazingly sage advice and encouragement.
Take care, stay strong
((((hugs))))


There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Charles Dickens


Posts: 257 | Registered: Sep 2013
Healing2012
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Default  Posted: 2:29 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Freed...just checking in on you. I hope all is well.


BS: Me (41)
WS: Husband (47)
Married 9 years
Two children 6 & 17 (my stepson)
D-day #1: 12/18/11
D-day #2: 8/26/12 (still in contact w/ OW)
Status: Separated - not R, not D.

Posts: 359 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Midwest
mof2
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Default  Posted: 4:55 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh my gosh! I cannot even begin to imagine your pain. I am so incredibly sorry and wish I could give you the biggest hug. You have gone through more than anyone should have to go through. Stay very strong and I will pray that your son is able to stay where you are. You should not have to go through anymore pain. (((((((((HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS)))))))))))


BW - Me 43
WH - Cheating Swine 43
Dday - February 12, 2013....a week before I was to give birth to the child I miscarried and 12 days before our 5th anniversary.

Posts: 316 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: DFW
Truly
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Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Freed,

Me again, hope you're ok.

Sending good thoughts your way x


There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Charles Dickens


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