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User Topic: Foo meeting mojo
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 3:02 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A lot has been going on. Don't have the strength nor stomach to pour it all out.

Tonight is a meeting to hash things out. It will be the deciding factor on whether my FOO will be a part of our lives anymore.

I'm sick. I'm scared. I'm exhausted. I feel I'm on the verge of freedom but that the cost will be great, and my children could suffer from the impact.

Any prayers or mojo would be appreciated.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


Posts: 6043 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
EmotionalFool
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Default  Posted: 3:09 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Aubrie)) Wishing you strength and peace


WW: 28 (ME)
BH: 28 (SI profile: CrappyLife)
D-Day- 15/10/12

Posts: 334 | Registered: Nov 2012
Aubrie
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Member # 33886
Default  Posted: 3:18 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks EF. I'm so scared. I'm physically sick. My stomach is shredded. Can't eat. Can't drink. It feels like a weird version of Dday although it not infidelity related at all.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


Posts: 6043 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
LosferWords
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Member # 30369
Default  Posted: 3:22 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hang in there, Aubrie. Go with your heart. That's really all you can do.

Sending mojo and strength your way.


Posts: 6107 | Registered: Dec 2010
SurprisinglyOkay
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Member # 36684
Default  Posted: 3:42 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Got some mojo coming your way


FWS me 36 (recovering addict)
BS him 39 AFrayedKnot
Together 7 years
2 children


"Your secrets keep you sick"


Posts: 1130 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: 221B
Faithful w/Love
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Member # 33128
Default  Posted: 3:42 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stay strong and fllow your heart. Remember we are all here cheering you on.


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)37
DD 19 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
False R. Still Lying.
Will be divorcing soon!
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have"!

Posts: 2608 | Registered: Aug 2011
heartache101
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Default  Posted: 3:49 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Aubrie
We can not change our past.
We can have a happy future by learning from our past.
Our true selves shines thru on how we handle our mistakes in life.

Good Luck!


There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing

Posts: 3180 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Indiana
plainsong
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Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you prayers and support. I hear your concern about your kids being affected. Remember that they will also benefit from seeing their parents set boundaries to protect themselves (and the family as a whole) from abusive or unhealthy relationships.

Also remember that it is ok for you to make the decision that you think and feel is best for you now. If the situation or people change later, you can renegotiate.

The most important thing now is to respect yourself and your own family unit. If you can speak respectfully to your FOO members while setting boundaries in this difficult situation, so much the better, but you can only do the best you can. I trust that your heart will lead you to a good choice.


Me,WW,69;
Him,BH,69 - about to be 70! Happy Birthday!
Dday,12/22/2010
I use capital letters for emphasis, not yelling!

Posts: 61 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Chicago area
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 3:59 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Prayers and mojo for you. Will be sending good thoughts.

We're here for you.

(((Aubrie)))


We are what we repeatedly do, excellence, then is not an act but a habit. - Aristotle

Posts: 16265 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 4:09 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Aubrie)))

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knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 4:21 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Prayers for strength, peace and guidance.

(((Aubrie)))


FWW 40's
D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

Posts: 1379 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 5:44 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks everyone.

Plainsong, you're right. On every account. It is healthy, it is the right thing to do.

Its just facing the monster straight in the eyes that is so terrifying. Its facing the abuse head on. Its putting your foot down and saying "No more."

Terrifying.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


Posts: 6043 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
wifehad5
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Default  Posted: 6:03 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck tonight. We're all behind you


FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live


Posts: 36413 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 6:07 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Strength vibes >>>>>>>


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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Joanh
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Default  Posted: 6:32 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Will be thinking of you and hope all goes well.
((Aubrie))


BH 39
WW 43
D day November 9, 2012
3 children 22, 8, 6
Just....

Posts: 386 | Registered: Apr 2013
AFrayedKnot
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Default  Posted: 7:14 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Prayers


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2527 | Registered: Aug 2012
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well that was worthless. You cannot discuss anything with a NPD P/A nut job. It all just gets turned back around on us.

There were no fights. No raised voices. But we were treated very condescendingly. Whatever. I'm done.

I can be civil. But they know where I stand and how I feel. You wanna think I'm stupid? Fine. Whatever. My life goes on.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


Posts: 6043 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 9:14 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you everyone for your words, care, and support. Means the world to me.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


Posts: 6043 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well that was worthless. You cannot discuss anything with a NPD P/A nut job. It all just gets turned back around on us.

1,000,000% true. This is why we do not engage with NPD/PA IL's anymore. We have the full support of our counselors, and basically anyone else who knows them.

It's going to be ok. You have YOUR family, and that's a perfectly worthy place to put your energy.


We are what we repeatedly do, excellence, then is not an act but a habit. - Aristotle

Posts: 16265 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just pisses me off. Ya know?

Be a dick. Doesn't care. Because HE is right. Dontcha know. Noooooobody else knows anything. He is God's gift to humanity.

Good luck with that Dude.

I have my husband and children. That's all that matters. I almost lost them once. Ain't gonna happen again.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


Posts: 6043 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
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