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User Topic: TT or just shame..not sure
topperoff22
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Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just forget it! GRRRRRRRRR!!!!

[This message edited by topperoff22 at 8:58 AM, October 20th (Sunday)]


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
wifehad5
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Member # 15162
Red  Posted: 3:02 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

topperoff,

Please review the description of this forum. No name calling please


FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live


Posts: 37377 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
topperoff22
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Default  Posted: 3:14 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are kidding right? After what has been allowed in this forum...including trashing WHs in this forum you are scolding me? Really?


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
topperoff22
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Member # 40762
Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OK. I changed it so it doesn't call him a bad name anymore but she's still disgusting.

[This message edited by topperoff22 at 4:36 PM, October 19th (Saturday)]


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
wifehad5
♂ Moderator
Member # 15162
Red  Posted: 4:52 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm not kidding. We don't allow venting or name calling or trashing in the Reconciliation Forum. If you want to vent, please do so in General or Just Found Out. It's welcomed there.

If you see any trashing in the Reconciliation forum, let one of us know so we can fix it.


FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live


Posts: 37377 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
topperoff22
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Member # 40762
Default  Posted: 5:43 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I will be sure to tell you because I have indeed seen it here. SO I have been admonished. Now, not only am I having a shit day but now I feel like a third grader. Anyway to delete my post? Or move it?

[This message edited by topperoff22 at 5:49 PM, October 19th (Saturday)]


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
Jrazz
♀ Guide
Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 6:01 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey topper - I remember going through what you are right now.

I was so hurt and pissed, and to cap things off I felt like I was getting in trouble HERE, the place I was supposed to be able to run to for comfort.

I broke more than a few guidelines, and I even got tossed out of Wayward for being rude in a response post.

At the time, I was beyond pissed and embarrassed. It literally took a year of stepping outside myself to see that I was very raw and wound tightly, and was not paying attention to the house that I was visiting and the environment they were trying to create.

The governance here isn't perfect by any means, but we try to keep people inside the guidelines so that they don't get abused in a BIG way later down the line.

I completely know how you feel about getting flagged while posting. Like I said, I was collecting them like crazy in the beginning and I even asked to be deactivated a couple times.

Fortunately, the people who had been in my shoes years prior to my DDay knew I just needed to cool off.

I'm not going to tell you to cool off. I know that's like a slap in the face with all the pain and fear you're experiencing right now. Just please believe me when I tell you that the staff tries to maintain the rules to the best of their ability so that everyone has the same opportunity to heal and grow here.

If you wanna vent hardcore, let's take it over to General and I will be right there with you. My specialty is throwing folding chairs.

[This message edited by Jrazz at 6:01 PM, October 19th (Saturday)]


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17810 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
wifehad5
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Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Moved it from Reconciliation to General for you

[This message edited by SI Staff at 5:17 AM, October 20th (Sunday)]


FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live


Posts: 37377 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
topperoff22
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Default  Posted: 6:51 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nah....no hardcore complaining today.


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
suposd2btheonly1
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Member # 40753
Default  Posted: 9:56 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Our Ddays are close, I feel the exact same way. I really hope it gets better from here. A lot of times Im not optimistic at all, others I am.

Youre not alone in your ways of thinking


Me: BW 31
Him: WH 30
OW: 22yo whore who is still planning her wedding
Married 3yrs, together 5
4 kids, all boys 14, 11, 4 and 8mos...I hope like hell they don't hurt someone the way he hurt their mama
Dday: August 9, 2013
S, until his head

Posts: 206 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
topperoff22
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Member # 40762
Default  Posted: 10:46 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Our Ddays are close, I feel the exact same way. I really hope it gets better from here. A lot of times Im not optimistic at all, others I am.
Youre not alone in your ways of thinking
Thank you and thinking of you.


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
Garnet
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Default  Posted: 10:55 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well maybe it's me but.......I think this is general NOT RECONCILE?? Let me know if I'm wrong???


Garnet☀

Posts: 84 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: MA
Jrazz
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Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 12:54 AM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Garnet, it got moved.


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17810 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
topperoff22
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Member # 40762
Default  Posted: 8:58 AM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Excuse me can someone just remove this...all I have gotten on it are complaints about where it is and NOT ONE DAMN bit of advice on it. HOW DO YOU DELETE POSTS OFF OF HERE. WHat an unhelpful group at times. At times...but not always!


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
topperoff22
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Member # 40762
Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ignore the anger in all of this if anyone sees it. I'm glad there were questions about it and that I edited things and it was moved from reconciliation. It had too much anger in it and I actually regret how it was worded. I have started to answer my own question anyhow. Thanks for helping me, mods, you are appreciated.


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
topperoff22
♀ Member
Member # 40762
Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ignore the anger in all of this if anyone sees it. I'm glad there were questions about it and that I edited things and it was moved from reconciliation. It had too much anger in it and I actually regret how it was worded. I have started to answer my own question anyhow. Thanks for helping me, mods, you are appreciated.


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
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