Well, my WH isn't very victim-y (thank goodness, I couldn't handle that, you must be a saint), but I've had the same thought.
I can't make him feel the pain that I'm feeling, and that he'll never experience this after everything he's done is not fair. When I'm feeling revenge-y, sometimes I fantasize that I'll spend the next year pretending to R, but instead screwing my way around town, then tell him all about it in a nice card on Christmas Day. Or maybe I'll put together a little picture book of every guy I screwed, complete with graphic descriptions of each encounter, and how much I liked it. Divorce papers will be tucked in an envelope on the last page.
Awful, huh? Of course, I know very well that causing a bigger mess is not a solution, and I'd never do it because a) That's just shitty and b) it's not an experience I'd wish on my worst enemy, let alone someone I love.
Guess all I'm saying is that I get you. Me: BW, 30
Him: WH, 36
7 years of double-digit ONS, LTA, hookers - the works.
First found out: August 20, 2013
Whole truth: January 1, 2014