Topic: Floundering here
Member # 22870
| Posted: 7:39 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013|
I just feel like ....I'm tired.
I have been seeing someone, but he obviously isn't putting the effort that I am into some kind of future relationship.
So, here I am, staring another holiday season in the face, alone. This is by no means a "poor me" post, but I just feel lost.
I feel like I have a lot to offer someone. I realize that my happiness is not dependent on some man, but I would like so much to be a part of a family, to be able to participate in that dynamic.
And, here I am on another Sunday night, alone, staring another week in the face.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Posts: 7033 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Member # 22860
| Posted: 7:55 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013|
tomorrow is another day, hopefully you will wake up feeling more positive.
you are not alone in feeling like this, and you are heard, and maybe that old cliché is true - its always darkest before the dawn.
your dawn could be just round the corner.
more hugs (((WM)))
Me = FBS
Him = gone
things that happen in my life do not define who I am. I get to choose to be the best I can be, for me. cause I'm worth it.
Posts: 286 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: my happy place (most of the time)
Member # 37895
| Posted: 7:56 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013|
I hear you. I am about to be divorced (I hope) and will be on my own, not for the first time. I have no family living. I find the holiday season daunting, too. I do have children so I try to focus on them and giving them a good experience which helps.
However, not all families are happy ones. I had dinner with a family last night and seeing the parents getting mega stressed and snap at each other made very glad to be out of a relationship.
The grass is always greener.....
Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.
Posts: 726 | Registered: Dec 2012
Member # 23138
| Posted: 8:09 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013|
DD: 1-14-09 EA/PA OM #1
DD#2: 5-18-09 EA OM #2
5-31-09: Told me she hasn't loved me.
Me BH: 36
Posts: 2772 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Inside your computer.
Member # 26741
| Posted: 8:38 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013|
I feel you. My last relationship ended in February when I caught him cheating (three in a row for me, yay!) and I have been alone since, only dating a few times because I feel like I can't be bothered to put in the effort. My bestie's husband even said a few weeks ago that he didn't understand, I was the total package, have so much to offer..(she was there of course). Sometimes, ya just have to step back to plan B. Enjoy your doggies and fulfill yourself. The happier I am, the more offers pop up. I am holding out this time for Mr. Right, not Mr. Right Now, and you should as well. Someone out there is healthy and whole and looking for an awesome woman, and you will find him when the time is right. Even with that said, I know that the biggest thing I have to look forward to in the holidays is the Glitter Bomb Exchange- otherwise known as the SI Christmas Card Exchange. That was a very nice pic of you and ur babies the year before last, btw. ((hugs))
Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx
I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.
Posts: 1133 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: clarksville, tn/ Ft Campbell
Member # 21964
| Posted: 8:47 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013|
Right here with you.
BS 45, WH 38
M 8 years, together 10
Real DDay 10/07/11
Too many OW to count.
D final on 6/21/12
The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed.
- Martina Navratilova
Posts: 2793 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
Member # 24518
| Posted: 9:03 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013|
Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave
Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect
Posts: 11989 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: TX
|Sad in AZ|
Member # 24239
| Posted: 9:07 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013|
I promise to surround myself with amazing souls and love them fiercely.
Posts: 19180 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
Member # 35912
| Posted: 9:12 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013|
I logged in to post a simar topic myself... Feeling another fall/winter season (with tons of family get togetherness) coming up and I'm alone.
I have no advice to offer, just know you are not alone
Posts: 413 | Registered: Jun 2012
Member # 12050
| Posted: 9:19 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013|
((hugs)) Your posts are usually so upbeat. It is very hard going through the holidays alone. I hope that you can surround yourself with some good friends over the season. We have a lot of friends and co-workers out here who have no family nearby and always end up with a houseful. It helps me fill the ache of not having my own family nearby.
Posts: 2606 | Registered: Sep 2006 | From: newfoundland
Member # 18437
| Posted: 9:20 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013|
(((Willies mom)))). You are not alone in this. I often feel like falling in love again isn't in the cards for me. Big hugs to you
Me - BS 42
Kids 12 and 9
Posts: 1846 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: NY
Member # 27148
| Posted: 9:37 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013|
(((Williesmom))) I am in the same place. It is sad.
Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.
Posts: 2373 | Registered: Jan 2010
Member # 31468
| Posted: 9:54 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013|
(((Hugs))) I get it.
I'm seeing someone but it's very slow, which is fine, but the holidays are not going to be together.
I was thinking this morning while working on my list for today, how much I miss having a partner to tag team chores, errands, and make the mundane stuff more fun. It's not much fun doing it all alone.
Together 9 yrs
Status: Divorced 4/27/11
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling
Posts: 4160 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
Member # 36134
| Posted: 11:09 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013|
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
Posts: 4031 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Member # 19258
| Posted: 11:46 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013|
you are fantastic. you do have a lot to offer. don't ever doubt that
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
Posts: 8261 | Registered: Apr 2008
Member # 30346
| Posted: 7:29 AM, October 21st (Monday), 2013|
I totally understand that feeling, but I really try to rock the holidays.
I have younger kids, so it is easy for me to focus on them, but I do stuff for me too. I decorate for me, I buy myself presents, I plan a little holiday party for my girlfriends...
Dump the guy, he isn't giving you what you want, and find something that you love about the holidays and focus there.
me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, separated 3 years, together 17
Alis volat propriis "She flies with her own wings"
Posts: 3616 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Virginia
Member # 20150
| Posted: 10:29 AM, October 21st (Monday), 2013|
We have to make our own joy. It's not an easy thing to learn and master, but if you want to achieve core happiness from within, it's something to think about.
Big huge hugs to you sweetie. You are worth all the joy life can give you.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
Celebrating 60 years on Earth
Posts: 16634 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Member # 33735
| Posted: 11:19 AM, October 21st (Monday), 2013|
M -25 years, T - 31 years, 4 children
Dday October 8, 2011 - Multiple PAs and ONs
"When you give a lot of importance to someone in your life, you lose your importance in their life."
Posts: 952 | Registered: Oct 2011
Member # 33882
| Posted: 11:34 AM, October 21st (Monday), 2013|
him (NPD Ex)
"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."
Posts: 2495 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
Member # 33226
| Posted: 11:36 AM, October 21st (Monday), 2013|
You can call me NIK
There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox
Posts: 22672 | Registered: Aug 2011
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