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User Topic: Tonight I miss him
musiclovingmom
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Default  Posted: 8:56 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My H works very long hours. 70 hours a week is normal. Many of those are out of town. Entire days off are rare. Yesterday, he was off. We spent the day doing normal stuff. We looked at new washers and dryers (a purchase we intend to make with our tax return). We gave each other ideas for Christmas gifts and started looking at Christmas for the kids. We went grocery shopping. We hung out at the house. At bedtime, I melted down over spilling a glass of tea when I was trying to be seductive. I spiraled over how he could want me and our life when he could have the fantasy his A's offered. He handled it beautifully. We went to bed with me feeling emotionally closer than I have in months. And tonight, as he is unexpectedly having to stay overnight on a job, I miss him. I'm not worried about where he is or what he's doing. I just genuinely, deep-down miss him. Even more than I would have before dday. It sucks, but it is also encouraging. Some days I'm so amazed at how far we've come.

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 9:44 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((music)))

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HardenMyHeart
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Default  Posted: 11:53 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((musiclovingmom)))


Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 30 years, Reconciled

Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.


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catlover50
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Default  Posted: 4:47 AM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well that's nice! Happy for you.



Dday -9/24/2012
Reconciling

Posts: 1728 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 7:38 AM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Musiclovingmom)))


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3609 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
OnAnIsland
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Content  Posted: 7:46 AM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Happy for you for that ordinary day together, that reassurance from your H, and for those healthy missing him feelings. Sorry that you are missing him, of course.

[This message edited by OnAnIsland at 7:48 AM, October 21st (Monday)]


D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013

Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful boys in elementary school

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou


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